Is there a WP communications etiquette advisor in the house?

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Recommendation for excellent book that gives examples of common everyday situations. Also mentioned in book, improv lessons (performing-arts exercises) to help youth on the Autism Spectrum.

* If I Understood You, Would I have this Look on My Face?- Adventures in the Art and Science of Relating and Communicating.' Alan Alda

https://www.amazon.com/Understood-Would ... 8&me=&qid=

I think having such an advisor would be a very bad idea, unless we had multiple of them from the beginning and of different ages, from different countries and cultures and of both sexes, for if we didn't, the advice would likely to be very biased and the advisor would likely simply look at things from the point of view he or she has in life, meaning he or she might actually do more harm than good by giving advice to someone that doesn't see the world in the same way at all.

So no, no advisor is the best advisor. Just ask advice from the regular members if you feel like you need it, take the advice that makes sense and ignore the ones that clash with your world views too much and, if needed, ignore certain members entirely. If someone's actually being rude with you (disagreeing is not automatically being rude by the way), alert the mods.

Anybody here on WP actually worked / volunteered to successfully mentor adults with HFA to develop successful friendships? Success can also stem from mentors becoming friends with HFA adults.

As this discussion thread is orientated around promotional efforts, successes encouraging HFAs to be confident in building friendships can stem from..............promotional efforts. Such efforts might have been originated with the statement, "sell HFAs on encouraging their confidence in friendships!!"

I don't think we need an etiquette advisor on WP. Having one would make this place feel a little stuffy.

The roles of Buddhism are worth mentions here - esp. the roles of mentors experienced in real-life situations.

The Zen of navigating, and benefiting from WP might just bring much needed Karma -- to best serve those concerned with the Autism Spectrum!

I am having trouble following some of this thread, so responding to the original post:

One of the things I think is good about WP is that we're all in this together. My guess is that some of the angsty, high volume posters are people who are struggling to be heard in their lives. I'm sure there are more cynical interpretations, but people's behaviours don't arise in a vacuum.

I think for WP to work, it really has to be a place where anyone feels free to express themselves as they can (as long as they're not breaking forum rules etc.). I personally have a policy that if a post is angering me or plain confusing, I just don't comment. I can understand the OPs desire to see people articulate themselves more clearly and in a more prosocial manner, but considering autism is at its core a difficulty (or difference if you prefer) in these areas, if we manipulate the environment to only promote those who have learned these skills it actually fails the very people who need it the most.

I think there are a bunch of forum members who do an amazing job of engaging with difficult posts/posters and helping them to express themselves more clearly without patronising or trying to shape their message. I personally don't have the time or emotional resources (nor necessarily the skills) to do that, but I very much appreciate those that do a great job of this on the forum.

TLDR: to the extent that there's a need for such a role, I think it's already being performed, and performed well, by a bunch of forum members who engage with thoughtful tact, guidance and kind advice