Why do people worry about turning 30 ?

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I think most people worry about turning 30 because they've seen others obsess about it, so they're very convinced it's a bad thing. Why the first people started fearing it though, I have no idea.

I'm not afraid of turning 30, I'm afraid of not getting to turn 30. My health has never been the best possible... when I was 19, I was waiting for a big surgery that was coming about a month after my 20th birthday. Back then I worried about not making it to 20. But well, 25 and still kicking, so maybe I'll make it to 30 and beyond. Hopefully anyway.

30, the big three-o. I guess for me, I know that time will fly and I'll be 30. I worry about not having certain things in my life together, and not being at a certain age of maturity, and knowing so many people are ahead of me.

I turned 30 29 years ago lol

I found 29the most troubling age. Like yoy Chris I was still single when an awful lot of peers were partnered, and I had had the first attempts (age 27) which had all been a bit pear shaped and I was in the process of attempting to straighten that out with some professional help.

However, I feel encouraged for you in that you have the first Really useful thing in hand which is work.

Is is possible that you are, in fact, doing the important things in the right order and the right timescale for you. That right order and timescale may prove the way to success, while rushing to keep up with others' order and timescale may result in doing stuff before properly ready and matters not ending well as a result.

Second intimate relationship in my 30s was lower stress, I was more prepared for the possibility. Number three did not happen, and that was a good outcome, because I had the experience to see signs in our two profiles and situation which were likely set things up to end badly.

I concentrated on my work, and this proved useful. I made some good sideways moves and small promotions, and I have avoided getting promoted to levels too far above my level of competence, meaning I have grown in experience rather than overreached nyself to the point of crashing and risking loosing my work as a consequrnce.

I have seen some who paired early, perhaps before they had a lot of life experience end up divorcing a decade or two later, and I am grateful to have avoided that situation with the stress and heartbreak it can bring.

I did not land in my present intimate relationship until my forties, and it was unconsummated until my fifties. It is a long distance one and I am grateful for the space and times to be alone.

Alone time allows me to be significantly autistic in private, through both low social demands and a chance for a lot of sensory stuff. Today I am spending most of the day at home in something I made giving me oodles of whole body pressure, which will mean I start a run of night shifts in a very goid state and will most likely look like a competent engineer rather than look "Autistic".

I think this life stuff needs to be done at the right speed for the person, not other people.