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05 Dec 2020, 4:30 pm

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I still get told to "lower the volume" at times,


By the way, when I hear the word "volume", the thought that comes to my mind is "so they understand that I am not shouting but simply have high volume; why do they have an issue with it then?"

Because you see, when I describe someone shouting I won't use the word "volume". When I picture "volume" I picture something in a nice shape with good content that simply happened to have a large volume. And yes, my voice falls into the latter category. So if others know it (as evident by their use of the word "volume") why do they have an issue with it?



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05 Dec 2020, 4:34 pm

I think i'm probably too quiet when speaking, I've always been a pretty soft speaker though
I recall getting teased heaps at school for this and often would be the butt of a soothers commercial. But in saying that getting everything right in that thing they call personal space is hard sometimes but I guess it all depends on the person whom you're engaging with. If i'm uncertain i generally disengage more / go more quiet. :roll: :?



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05 Dec 2020, 4:34 pm

QFT wrote:
King Kat 1 wrote:
I still get told to "lower the volume" at times,


By the way, when I hear the word "volume", the thought that comes to my mind is "so they understand that I am not shouting but simply have high volume; why do they have an issue with it then?"

Because you see, when I describe someone shouting I won't use the word "volume". When I picture "volume" I picture something in a nice shape with good content that simply happened to have a large volume. And yes, my voice falls into the latter category. So if others know it (as evident by their use of the word "volume") why do they have an issue with it?


They understand the issue but it still bothers them. They're trying to be as understanding as possible while still making their perfectly reasonable request.


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05 Dec 2020, 4:43 pm

Danusaurus wrote:
I think i'm probably too quiet when speaking, I've always been a pretty soft speaker though
I recall getting teased heaps at school for this and often would be the butt of a soothers commercial. But in saying that getting everything right in that thing they call personal space is hard sometimes but I guess it all depends on the person whom you're engaging with. If i'm uncertain i generally disengage more / go more quiet. :roll: :?


Your volume is needlessly distracting to others, and may drown out other signals. It is like taking up two seats on the bus when you could fit into one.



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05 Dec 2020, 5:07 pm

Dear_one wrote:
Danusaurus wrote:
I think i'm probably too quiet when speaking, I've always been a pretty soft speaker though
I recall getting teased heaps at school for this and often would be the butt of a soothers commercial. But in saying that getting everything right in that thing they call personal space is hard sometimes but I guess it all depends on the person whom you're engaging with. If i'm uncertain i generally disengage more / go more quiet. :roll: :?


Your volume is needlessly distracting to others, and may drown out other signals. It is like taking up two seats on the bus when you could fit into one.


Yeah I like to rely on my odd fashion attire to take away from my volume issue, generally works.



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08 Dec 2020, 2:01 pm

I usually talk too loud if I am ranting or excited about something.



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09 Dec 2020, 3:00 pm

Personally, the opposite has been more of a factor than speaking in a 'normal' tone of voice - that is, I remember being nudged to "speak up!"



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09 Dec 2020, 3:21 pm

I actually had to have speech therapy as a young child because I spoke very quietly as well as somewhat fast. Over the years, however, I've tried to teach myself to speak at a more typical volume and speed. My father though is hard of hearing so I have to now speak loudly around him. Otherwise, I probably still speak somewhat quietly around everybody else, especially when I'm sad or anxious. Usually, it's the latter.


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09 Dec 2020, 3:31 pm

Based on how others react to me I think I talk more quietly than I think I am most of the time, but louder than I think I am if I know I'm raising my voice. But its hard to tell how often these things happen because no one will mention it if its at a normal volume.



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09 Dec 2020, 6:10 pm

VERY COMMON! I SOMETIMES HAVE ISSUES WITH THIS AND PEOPLE FIND IT QUITE ANNOYING!!



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09 Dec 2020, 6:39 pm

Auditory processing and voice modulation.
A very common issue.


Personally, I don't deal with this constantly, and I don't have a lot of issues in this area...

Until any time and place starts to screw up my hearing, or certain impulsive thoughts or emotions in a way.
That's usually when I get voice modulation issues.

My own issues are still more to do with accents and occassionally pronunciations.


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19 Dec 2020, 10:55 pm

I live in United States in Ohio. Some accents I cannot understand at all, it just sounds like a bunch of blah blah to me or when people use local slang for stuff, then I have no clue what they are talking about it.



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19 Dec 2020, 11:01 pm

I used to get told off for talking to loudly in public. :D