Straight Or Not Straight?

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Straight, with nearly no wriggle room. Tried kissing a few women in the last decade, but that only made me wonder why men enjoy kissing us. Too soft. No intensity. Just very meh. Gah, no. And I don't believe for an instant that just because she'd have the same bits that she'd know what I'd prefer done to mine.

I thought that before I joined this site. That being aspie/autistic wouldnt have anything to do with being gay, and that the ratio of gay autistics to straight would be the same as the general population (like one in ten or whatever).

But folks on this site have said that autism correlates with LBGT. And there do so seem to be many LBGT and asexual folks on this site. So I dunno. I guess the two populations overlap more than by chance. Its not obvious to me why.

The poll is shaping up to about a three to two ratio among autistics. Majority straight, but not as a big a majority as you would expect if it mirrored the general population (should be seven to one, or ten to one. Straight to gay).

That is what surprized me as well and why I made this thread with a poll.

I'm a straight male who has AS.

My NT sister identifies herself as asexual.

However, our mom has accused me of being gay many times. Just because I have friends who are openly LGBT does not mean I myself am secretly gay or bisexual.

Having friends who are gay is fine and of course it does not mean that you are gay as well.

Saying you’re gay because you have gay friends is like saying a man is a woman because he has woman friends.

I would speculate that the unexpectedly high percentage of "queer" respondents is due to the female membership. I think a lot of women on the spectrum, especially if diagnosed early, have been encouraged to fear heterosexual encounters and to view any male suitor as a potential predator wanting to take advantage of their lack of interpersonal skills as an easy path to using them for sex. This could lead to a degree of sex-negativity extreme enough to manifest as asexuality, or to cause a woman to be more comfortable in a same-sex relationship even if otherwise they would not have a lesbian orientation.

It seems to me that most self-diagnosed or late-diagnosed women on this site are straight.

I hope I'm not breaking any rules for posting this in non-Adult section.

To be honest, I think that the reason of having higher proportion of homosexuals among autistic people is their tendency to feel sort of detached from the general population and in consequence being less likely to subscribe to the current cultural perception of sexuality.

The older I am the more I think that the current cultural perception of sexuality (which is based on the Bible and Christian traditions) that treats sexuality as a categorical variable (e.g. you're either het, homo, bi, pan, demi, whatever, etc.) as a bit ridiculous and fundamentally flawed.

I think most of people have sort of non-straight tendencies, even though they would vehemently deny it and feel uncomfortable about it (hence the saying that the biggest gay-haters are those unsure about their own sexuality). I think human sexuality is more like a radar-chart thing composed of various different elements, than a categorical variable.

Look at men in Ancient Greece. They had wives and a lot of them engaged in pederasty at the same time. Were they straight, gay or pedophiles? I think if you were to ask them that, they wouldn't have a clue what are you talking about.

To conclude, I think autistic people tend to have a more objective view of their own individual sexuality and as such tend to get categorized as non-straight by the rest of the population more often.

But it's just my speculation.

I've tried telling this to my LGBT-phobic mom,
but this increases her hatred of LGBT people even more.

Now the poll is settling into a two to one ratio. A larger majority of straight, but still a smaller majority than you would expect if it reflected the general population.

Autistic people being more likely to be non-straight, is maybe possible but I kinda doubt it.

I think there's a good chance that autistic people are more likely to realize/admit they're not straight. Autistic people are already different from most people in some ways, and may be considered "weird" by our peers. So I think that makes people more likely to admit to other things about themselves that are somehow different. I know plenty of queer autistic people and most of us have rather given up on "seeming normal".