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25 Jan 2022, 8:21 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
In American culture, the host family is supposed to clean up after dinner; the guests aren’t supposed to help. In West Indian culture, though, the guests are supposed to help clean up.

i must be west-indian then because i always try to help the host.



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25 Jan 2022, 8:49 pm

auntblabby wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
In American culture, the host family is supposed to clean up after dinner; the guests aren’t supposed to help. In West Indian culture, though, the guests are supposed to help clean up.

i must be west-indian then because i always try to help the host.

Or you were raised to be a nice considerate person. I mean, my thought path would be 'I enjoyed this meal so I should at least help clean up since I didn't do any cooking so I can shwo the person that did cook that I appreciate what they did and understand that they might be tired.' I'm also American born and raised so... this might just be a social difference based on intercultural differences in American culture.



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25 Jan 2022, 8:53 pm

[aside from west-indian culture] i don't know enough about world cultures to be able to know if it is just weaknesses in amuuurican culture, or human nature the world over.



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26 Jan 2022, 1:28 pm

"And your friends, baby - they treat you like a guest."
- Bob Dylan



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26 Jan 2022, 1:33 pm

Fern wrote:
Today I learned:

1. that when I am a guest at a dinner party, I am expected to go home when the host starts picking up empty plates.
2. (because of point 1) that if I host a dinner party, I shouldn't pick up plates unless I want everyone to leave.

These are revelations to me. It explains a lot of gatherings that ended abruptly in my view. I always wondered how people orchestrate leaving these kinds of things all at once. On a more critical note, it seems impractical to just leave one person to clean up all of that mess. Do NTs really not want help washing the dishes?

That being said, I'm glad someone told me.



I read your post and initially thought that can't be right, then realised I have never been to a dinner party that wasn't family so have no reference points :lol:


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26 Jan 2022, 1:35 pm

Dear_one wrote:
"And your friends, baby - they treat you like a guest."
- Bob Dylan


:D :D :D :) .


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26 Jan 2022, 2:02 pm

...that one of my "comedienne crushes", Fern Brady, is on the spectrum.

I've started an amusing conversation with Fern regarding the girlfriend of a mutual "comedian crush", and whether this woman might be autistic, as well.

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27 Jan 2022, 1:43 pm

GadgetGuru wrote:
...that one of my "comedienne crushes", Fern Brady, is on the spectrum.

I've started an amusing conversation with Fern regarding the girlfriend of a mutual "comedian crush", and whether this woman might be autistic, as well.

Darron


For the record, she and I are remarkably close in age, but I am not Fern Brady.
I'm not sure you needed to be told this though. The lack of comedic skill exhibited in my posts probably makes that readily apparent. :lol:



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30 Jan 2022, 7:44 am

“Your friends, baby, they treat you like a guest” — Darby Slick



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30 Jan 2022, 7:53 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
“Your friends, baby, they treat you like a guest” — Darby Slick


Yeah, thanks. My memory is aging.