Aspies as scapegoats

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I don't think that I'm a scapegoat really, I think when someone in my family does something wrong, the blame goes to who did it. But I am definitely the black sheep of the family. They love me, they've just never fully understood how to deal with me. Especially my mom. She says I was an extremely difficult child growing up, says I was a brat. In fact, recently she told me that when she was raising my brother and sister, who are considerably older than I am, she prided herself on being a good mother and thought that parenting came easy for her. But when I came along, she had no idea what to do with me because I was so different. Too bad they didn't have special services for those like me when I was young. It could have saved a lot of heartache for my mom and me and all concerned. There's a big difference between being a brat and being on the spectrum.

It is terrible when everyone thinks are you the same , but chooses to be different.

Do complete the opposite of what you really want to do of being the same. So much work I have put into it. More then anyone else.

All my life my parents put my siblings as examples of good, kind, considerate behavior to me. They always called me mean, evil, selfish, etc.

Nowadays, they're old and totally disabled and abandoned by both my siblings. The only one who is in touch with them and helps them is me, and I do the impossible for them to enjoy life in spite of their condition. My sister doesn't even allow them to see the grandkids, just because old and sick people don't strike her fancy.