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I agree wholeheartedly!

Honesty I can respect. rolling eyes and whispered comments behind hands, being talked down to or having them speak loudly and enunciate carefully I think is so parochial! I try so hard to pretend to be normal when getting a hair cut or what ever. I always have a picture, because I have had many different inturpretations of what 'over the ears' means. too many. So I chat just enough to do the social duty and then let them be the professional they are. (or should be).

I have quickly sized up a situation when I sat down in the chair that whom ever I drew from the common pool was just not going to work and pulled off my cosmetic cape and grabbed my purse mumbling something about forgetting an appointment I had, and that I had to run!

so I guess it work both ways.

Merle

I agree wholeheartedly!

Honesty I can respect. rolling eyes and whispered comments behind hands, being talked down to or having them speak loudly and enunciate carefully I think is so parochial! I try so hard to pretend to be normal when getting a hair cut or what ever. I always have a picture, because I have had many different inturpretations of what 'over the ears' means. too many. So I chat just enough to do the social duty and then let them be the professional they are. (or should be).

I have quickly sized up a situation when I sat down in the chair that whom ever I drew from the common pool was just not going to work and pulled off my cosmetic cape and grabbed my purse mumbling something about forgetting an appointment I had, and that I had to run!

so I guess it work both ways. How many times has anyone tried to MAKE them do the job you think they should do?? Now, that is a difficult way to spend an afternoon!

Merle

I think the idea of homosexuals having a sense of their own is just a MYTH! There ARE certain words, tone, sayings they use that no STRAIGHT male would DARE use, or has. THEY are easy to pick out. Heck, it seemed to be almost innately known. I knew that even before I knew there were homosexuals.

Others seem normal, and apparently even homosexuals assume. I think I was hit on like 3 times by waiters at a restaurant. Once I figured out that most, maybe all, of the male waiters were likely homosexual, I LEFT. They were no more direct than straight women are. I never returned there. I originally went there because a church group, I was with, did.

But I am straight. I have also heard of a device called a gaydar. I saw it advertised someplace once, and several references to it. One was on a talk show, and they spoke of one for STRAIGHT people. The idea is that someone that has certain desires carries one and, when another that matches comes too close, they go off. I would get the straight one in a shot if it had a chance to become popular with women worth my time.

As for having a natural aspiedar, I HAVE noticed some. I rate it by intelligence, stims, solitude, attitude, words, senses, opinions. If they are pretty smart, have some repetitive motion, are single and not very social, are to passive or to blunt, use words past a certain level, seem to have a different level of senses, express opinions about personal space, multitasking, etc.... I figure HEY, MIGHT BE ASPIE!

I am way too blunt; my boss does not like me for that very reason. How annoying to have a boss that doesn't like you. Really, if I could find another job, I would go.

What I don't get...what's wrong with being blunt? People make conversation sooooo difficult when they talk sideways, yuk!! !!

I've only spotted one Aspie/Autistic in public and it was very obvious because they were pacing back and forth and flapping their hands. I'm not very observant, so I don't really spot them. So far no one has been able to tell I'm an Aspie by seeing me in public, but I kind of wish they did.

Why do you wish that? I can think of some reasons, but am still curious. Heck, that is why I am not hiding some things that are really attracting some attention, and say I might be autistic.

Just maybe as a confirmation for me, or possibly it would be a way to meet another Aspie.

Definately! I have an amazing Aspiedar and I love it!! !

Star

Same here. Unfortunately, a lot of my differences have been long hidden, etc... Still, a lot of people seem to figure out something is different with me pretty early.

So how many have you spotted, and where?

I have it.


I notice the AS traits in every person I meet, and have spotted two Aspies that way.

YEAH, I notice AS traits too. Just yesterday, on the plane, a woman seemed quiet, studious(biochemistry), had some stims, I think was shy, etc... Still, WHO KNOWS? Heck. Someone I work with has some stims, makes funny faces, seems to get quite nervous, almost like a meltdown, seems arrogant, blunt, self deprecating, is very smart, single, straight, seems to have no real friends, etc.... Still, WHO KNOWS?

Yeah..I have pretty much what one would concider Aspiedar..I also run a venue that can tend to be an Aspie magnet...We get lots of folks who defintiely seem to be someplace on the spectrum..and alot of them seem very different from each other...as there definitely seems to be several different flavors of aspie...from the cross dressing comic artist to the gay physics professor to the polygamous party animal.....and so on....

Ever since I was little, I always gravitated towards people who seemed to be more on my wavelength...though there have been times when I was wrong.

When I go home and all to my parents and in the city there is a higher chance of finding an Aspie than in the small town I live in and I've only found some by chance but it was through their parents that I found out. But back up home, I've been on the bus a few times taking my oldest son for appts. at the children's hospital and I've spotted other potential autistic/aspies and have had both my son and I spotted by another Aspie who looked at me and asked if I had Aspergers because they thought so, not sure exactly how they figured it out on the bus but well it was interesting and said that well my son struck him as more autistic (back then Dylan was pretty much non-verbal).

I can pick out potential aspies, yes. Especially girls if they talk weirdly.

Where I live and travel, I ALWAYS find the Aspie(s) and end up talking to them. Being able to spend a while talking to someone without tiring out and feeling frustrated, is the proof that I can spot the Aspies.

I have always had a very accurate sixth sense, but only after I realized I had AS, I became aware that other Aspies have it too and that is why I can so easily spot other Aspies. It almost feels like telepathy or mind-reading, but I don't read their thoughts I just 'read' their 'like-mindness'. An Aspie can 'sense' an Aspie.

Star