My aha moment was when my ex-husband and I visited a couples' therapist because he claimed I was "crazy" and he wanted to prove it to me...
Eventually, he took off (best thing that's ever happened in my life) and when I returned to the therapist she said to me
"I know you're not ready to date anyone yet, but as soon as you are, let me know, because I really want my brother to meet a girl like you...you're an amazing girl and the type of girl I'd love my brother to hook up with..."
Ah, sweet words which made me realize I was "NOT" crazy, just different, but had much more to offer than others saw...