username88 wrote:
When someone claims to help me because it makes them feel better but not because they actually like me it makes me feel used. "I help out my friends because it makes me feel good, and because I love my friends". That just makes more sense to me.
It is interesting that you mention love in this context, my friend. Me potentially feeling better by helping someone is simply a side-effect. When I do try to help, it is love that both motivates me to do so, and provides the inspiration and energy for the help I seek to provide. I cannot help, or attemp to help, someone who I do not care about. I
must apply love to the situation both to care, and to give my best at trying to help. Be it love of a friend, or love that is much deeper than that... Whenever I try to help someone, love is at the very root of my thought an actions. Fortunately for me, love is something that I have an over-abundance of; I have more love in my heart than I know what to do with, than I'll ever be able to really express. If I can apply just a bit of it towards helping others, then all the better. To do anything else would be an utter waste...
Good fortune,
- Icarus Loves...
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