Selective sensory issues?

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They leave me alone when Im sleeping usually anyway. Tomorrow I have to go to my job assessor again, Im SO not in the mood.

I still remember when I started calling CPS(Child Protection Services) when I was 7 or 9. She was once again yelling at me for nothing, and driving me nuts. When I think of all the bad that happened JUST because she was so neurotic. YIKES! My mother Told me I could end up in foster care. I decided not to call.

I called when I was 14 (here we call it DSS), and it was a big mistake in a way, but it helped my parents in a lot of ways as well. It was a mistake because it was just an embarrassment on my part, I was too nervous to say the right things to them and my mom was able to whitewash the stories I told them easily. I looked like a fool because no one took what I said seriously, but in the end they learned the hard way I dont take s**t from them. It was the only thing I could do. From that point on they yelled *less* than they normally did, and stopped getting physical with me. At least something somewhat good came from it. It would be pointless for me to call now because Im nearly 20 years old.

I haven't been here long on WP, so I don't remember or know much about you.

Are you in public school, like high school or something?
If so, have you ever gone to a school counselor, teacher, or someone else, to try and find an adult who will understand that what is different about you quite has a name, definite structure as to how you relate to others, and coping strategies for family members?

Have you provided you parents with information on AS that you find agrees with your position?
If they go on line, have they ever dropped by here or would you even want them to?

There are plenty of examples of adults here who exhibit signs&symptoms of AS etc., yet lead productive lives even with arm flapping, pacing, etc.

It may take finding someone who can come across as an authority on AS, to reach your parents.
Whether you find that person in your own community, or elsewhere, this may be the only way to get their attention and provide them with a better understanding of all the facets of AS.

I barely lived through highschool but could only go through one semester of college. I couldnt handle the social aspect of it, got all As and Bs though. They think that they are know it alls about AS and they dont need my input about it they say. They are just stubborn, and unaccepting of who I am. Nothing I can really do about it.
Its not really the physical quirks about me per se that keeps me from keeping jobs and friends, its more of the social aspect. A lot of the time I dont realize what I do wrong but when I do its the worst feeling in the world. The worst always happens no matter what I learn from the situation.

Okay, so you're older than I thought. There seem to be a good number of teens here so sometimes when home is mentioned I'm not sure what the circumstances are.

So, how about job counseling? Employment centers? Got any around your town?

Also, if money is tight, are there any free clinics that might have a counselor who is familiar with AS, or who can at least address your issues and help communicate them to your folks?

Sounds like you're not going back to college?
With my diagnosis of ADD/HD, I was routed through the DSS (Disabled Student Services).
This was supposed to provide me with support in the classroom and outside to some degree.
I actually only used their private rooms to do my homework.

If you could get enrolled in school again, even for one class, wouldn't you be able to take advantage of a service like that?
Again, this could help provide your parents with more and better info about you, as well as help you in school.

I have a job assessor, and the company I go to are really doing a good job. When I spend normal time with them its really comforting because they understand me. But when Im being assessed I tweak out so bad its embarrassing.. I dont know what to tell them but I think they get it. No one else would though! Even if they do they would treat me like Im lower than them in some way, through the way they talk to me or whatever, and it will just make me feel miserable. Ive had pleanty of jobs before but they never worked out. In one of my bussing jobs I over heard my boss say to the person who hired me "you were actually thinking about hiring this kid??" People have said so many worse things about me but that one corresponds with what we are talking about here the most. Just like everyone here I just cant mix well with most other people because of my differences. Its so hurtful! And whats worse is theres nothing I can say to make the situation better. Sure it might be possible for me to keep a s**t job where people will be treating me like Im not "one of them" one of these days, but how will I escape my misery? Things will never change unless something else more drastic is done.. I mean, if I can find a way to live with other aspies or something. I think then I will be truely happy and accepted! Ive been wanting that for SO many years.. That isnt wrong is it?

I haven't seen anything to indicate it is wrong.

Sheesh! That was one sad comment from that guy. I just don't understand why people act so callous, but it is reality.

You mentioned earlier that you told your dad you're a misfit to society.

I've said the same thing about myself before, but I tend to really believe that there is some place I can live and do alright.
I keep on trying to find that one occupation that I will fit in with and take care of myself by.

I'll be 50 years old in three years! I don't feel like it, I don't look like it (according to folks at work), but the fact remains that I'm getting to the age where businesses don't want hire me unless I stand at the door saying, "Welcome to Malwart!"

I still keep an optimistic outlook though because I have no good sense for the value of money. I don't agonize over having it or not having it.

I guess I'm saying, 'hang in there, you're still quite young', but that's not going to really make your situation better huh?

I have heard of some communities/cities/states that were friendly towards... gays, transgendered persons, different ethnicities, etc. but I haven't heard of one for folks like us, yet.

I love your attitude, really most people would end it at "hang in there, your still quite young". I think you understand me very well. I dont really care about having money either, just as long as I have what I need. Im really glad that Ana is doing everything she can with getting this "aspie commune" thing going, but she said we will have to wait another two months. Ive been suffering for the 19 years Ive been alive.. I dont mean to sound impatient or ungreatful but I need help now.. :/

Yeah, I saw her post.... Nova Scotia?

I hope you all keep in mind that everyone of you who have been talking about the commune thing... three of you, seriously, right?... are 'young adults'. That means you have time to make another change in life if this plan doesn't work out.

In my mind, I keep thinking it will work. I don't know how you would make it work, but it would be neat to see something like this prosper even if only for a few years. Perhaps somewhere down the line you all would find different directions to go based upon the good experience of your commune.

I can't bring to mind any commune that has survived. I'm thinking of the communes from the '60s and '70s.
There were some that went well for many years, but some fell apart quite rapidly because of issues concerning rules and leadership.

Deep down I dont think it will work at all.. Thats just because Im a downer.. But I realize I need to be happy. I just want it to work so I force myself to believe that it will. Maybe it will.

The UK seems to have more positive things going on the the USA, IMO. I could be wrong, though.

If the commune doesn't work we'll stil have the land to build stuff on, and we can still invite Aspies over to live or whatever.


Please cheer up!


It's driving me mad that I need to wait; I feel so helpless! I feel like I made a promise and broke it!

No.. Dont feel that way.. Im just an impatient bastard lol jk
I dunno I guess I feel slightly better though.

On rare occaisions when someone touches me, I usually get a sort of tingly feeling like there is something on me that I need to brush off.
My family are all aspies as well, so we seem to always either understand completely or totally clash.
Things like getting irritated by chewing etc are usually caused by differences in signal processing not a case of to much signal. At random times I can suddenly become very sound sensitive. Its like someone has turned up the volume of the world around me.
Sensory desensitisation is recommended by doctors and shrinks for this sort of sensory processing difficulty. only problem is that it does not really work on aspies because it is not a mental thing but a physiological thing.
All you can do is try to avoid things that produce irritating effects.

I really feel for you. I remember having those same feelings about my family, except that my dad was somewhat aspie himself and kind of took me under his wing while he was still healthy. Unfortunately, he got sick right before I hit my teens and then I was on my own.

The one thing I can tell you is that exercise really saved me. Can you find an activity that you can really stick to? It helps regulate your brain so it won't be as likely to shut down when it's assaulted by all that input.
I started with martial arts and biking, because those are not as social as team sports. Tennis became my ultimate obsession before I had my son, and when I was playing, it was also the happiest and most lucid time in my life. It is also a very social sport just by meeting up to play doubles, and you get to know people without ever having to talk to them too much. I started just by playing with a coach for awhile.