Why do aspies boast less than NTs?

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28 Sep 2007, 9:27 pm

MAN, this is getting scary! I am the SAME way as you guys!

Some take credit for my work, brag about the simplest thing, etc... I am more assertive and point out others mistakes more now, just to show people I AM needed and AM doing something, but am generally just someone quietly doing things.

Just today I got blamed for one persons failure. SHE had bad code affected by someone elses bad data. SO, I gave her a patch for her code, and asked the other person to fix his data, and let everyone know what was going on.

LUCKILY, this happened before, so MY code handled the bad data. :lol:

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28 Sep 2007, 10:04 pm

Some Aspies definitely boast.

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28 Sep 2007, 10:14 pm

bobert wrote:

I try not to boast, because it creates expectations that I can't live up to. In fact, it's better when people underestimate me, it frees me up to be my erratic self.

Ah! The element of surprise when we encounter it in NT's.

Underestimate... I like that word.

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28 Sep 2007, 10:23 pm

Papillon wrote:

bobert wrote:

I try not to boast, because it creates expectations that I can't live up to. In fact, it's better when people underestimate me, it frees me up to be my erratic self.

Ah! The element of surprise when we encounter it in NT's.

Underestimate... I like that word.

Yeah, I've often said I would like to be like columbo

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Columbo

Everyone underestimates him, considers him to be an idiot bum, and THEN he ends up solving the crime. On one episode he even tricks his own boss into convicting himself!

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29 Sep 2007, 7:31 am

Yes,Columbo did things the right way.Underestimated or 'understated' is another
good word.He lets people who delight in feeling superior go ahead and set themselves up for a fall.
That's one reason I don't like to boast.I remember the saying 'Pride comes before a
fall' . I'd feel like I was setting myself up for life to teach me a lesson.
On the other hand there's no harm in people having an honest appreciation of
their own strong points or blessings.

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29 Sep 2007, 8:25 am

9CatMom wrote:

We have to work much harder at some things others take for granted.

Yeah, and computers create more problems, and are slower than people. BOTH are very true statements *****BUT*****!

Computers can do the same thing over and over again and over time are FASTER! Likewise, I find some things easy that NT people don't.

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29 Sep 2007, 8:41 am

Macbeth wrote:

("I can program with my eyes closed/I read Tolstoy in the original russian for kicks" or whatever) we all assume its probably true, because we all do things like that. We know its possible.

ok... THIS i why i don't think i am great, and therefore don't boast as much as some. i was shaking my head and lamenting how stupid i am because i am not very good with computers, and i only speak english, and THEN i read "we all do things like that" and felt sad that i am not smart enough to be part of "we" and then i kept reading and got kind of confused because i was like, WAIT, you mean people might type that and LIE? and i had to read the part about shoes twice because i got distracted and started thinking of ways to kill people with shoes, but then i saw that a REAL cia person would not be saying that to a civilian, so it was a lie/joke.

and i am flawless at doing the in-person eye-roll/sheepish grin, and saying, "i KNEW that, just kidding!"

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29 Sep 2007, 10:37 am

There are a crapload of aspies that boast to make up for their social ineptness in situations. So don't think there aren't any that don't brag.

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29 Sep 2007, 5:49 pm

HereComesTheRain wrote:

There are a crapload of aspies that boast to make up for their social ineptness in situations. So don't think there aren't any that don't brag.

True, but I think the general "Useless at lying" thing most of us get as part of the package makes that a pretty bad option......

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29 Sep 2007, 6:06 pm

A couple of reasons why I don't boast:

I'm genuinely honest. I believe what I do to be good when I know it is, but I don't falsely assume I'm great at everything I accomplish. It's actually the cornerstone of my casualness, self-deprecating humor said with confidence.

Another is my constantly thinking, questioning nature. I'm always exploring, when I talk about something I explain it to my ability and what I understand at this moment... but I don't assume that I know everything.

Also, my memory is really shoddy, and I know this. So it's hard to be assured when you are always forgetting the details.

It's not all bad though. When I understand something, I really understand it. I explore details and find possibilities that aren't seen by others.

I'm also fairly diplomatic. I try to find many sides of issues, even if I don't understand and believe they are wrong. I like knowing how the other side came to know something.

I don't plan on changing my basic nature. But I'm working on being more assured that my exploring and creative ideas that spring from that are actually worth while. I may not be assertive in what I know, but I am assertive in my brain's creativity.

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29 Sep 2007, 6:57 pm

Brian003 wrote:

Some Aspies definitely boast.

There are lots of pretty pictures of pretty women on the "post a pic" thread. (Not saying that it's all "boasting," but...)

Then again, "boasting" can also be another word for "keeping yourself in the game," which a lot of aspies could stand to do more of.

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There are a crapload of aspies that boast to make up for their social ineptness in situations.

Yep. Boasting & bragging to compensate for a lack of confidence is pretty common. And there are plenty of aspies who fall into that category. Though most probably have no idea that it looks like "boasting" to others, because their words come from a sense of inadequacy, rather than accomplishment.

But none of us can generalize for all of us, in any case.

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29 Sep 2007, 10:31 pm

bobert wrote:

I try not to boast, because it creates expectations that I can't live up to. In fact, it's better when people underestimate me, it frees me up to be my erratic self.

Me too.

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29 Sep 2007, 10:51 pm

affengeil wrote:

Brian003 wrote:

Some Aspies definitely boast.

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There are a crapload of aspies that boast to make up for their social ineptness in situations.

Boasting seems POINTLESS, ESPECIALLY if you are anonymous. But I "boast" here for only 3 reasons...

1. It is true, and I DO have weaknesses, so it helps to offset it.
2. To VENT about plagerism, etc...
3. To ENCOURAGE.

Besides, a LOT of people here, including I myself, have spoken about weaknesses ALSO.

I never understood boasting about things that weren't true in places like this.

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29 Sep 2007, 10:54 pm

HereComesTheRain wrote:

There are a crapload of aspies that boast to make up for their social ineptness in situations. So don't think there aren't any that don't brag.

I definitely used to fall into that category. I would let people know about my high IQ, and didn’t realize that was inappropriate. (Plus I feel stupid anymore anyway.)

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29 Sep 2007, 11:09 pm

I suppose I tend to boast at times, or at least that is how it would be observed to others. But really, I'm just proud of myself for something or am just talking about something that happened. Either way, it's just fact for me, and that's it.

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29 Sep 2007, 11:09 pm

i_Am_andaJoy,

Macbeth wrote:

("I can program with my eyes closed/I read Tolstoy in the original russian for kicks" or whatever) we all assume its probably true, because we all do things like that. We know its possible.

For the record, I CAN and DO program in my memory. I COULD do it with my eyes closed, but I do more with them open. I may want to watch TV, read, or take a shower! 8-)

But I don't think I ever read tolstoy, never learned cyrillic, and don't know much russian. Now if it was english, german, danish, french, spanish and possibly hindi, I would at least have a chance. even some related languages, like dutch.

BUT, to be fair, macbeth said ***LIKE***.

Pugly wrote:

I'm the same way, but I DO know that I know certain things pretty well. I don't, however, have the stupidity and audacity, to believe I know everything about them.

My memory isn't real shoddy, but it is far from where I want it.

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