Do You Compare Your Achievements To NTs?

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Yes, I compare myself against friends of mine who are extremely successful in fields such as music journalism, music PR, venue management, club promotion etc, and of course I find myself wanting, despite the fact that I know I'm more talented than some of these people.

I don't think it's such an awful thing to do. It pushes me to work harder. There is no way that I'm going to view myself as disabled and unable to do these things - that would be a cop out.

I HATE my "peers" with the "better social skills" NOT because of jealousy or because they make more than I do. I HATE the managers that seem to only slow things down, take credit for my work, and get paid twice what I do. I HATE the salespeople that try to gyp people, etc.....

I don't mind if people take credit for my work if they can make it better. If they make it worse I just wish I could have erased it from their memory. I don't like managers either because they don't seem to really have a purpose in the organization unless you consider emotional torture of employees a useful purpose in a business. Sales people are a necessary evil though. They are the cash cows.

As for first impressions, I'm sure people underestimate me, etc... I have actually had some people not hire me, and I feel sorry for THEM! They will go off, have MORE stress, and spend more money, and possibly never get the work done!

People have always underestimated me. I have met NTs whom I befriended who actually didn't really like me much when they first met me only to later actually appreciate my strengths and admit that they were wrong about me. If an interview lasted over a year I think I may actually have a shot.

BTW I give people a kind of IQ test for my company!(It is really SIMPLE! It tests only the most basic of logic and communication, and memory. Yet, surprisingly, FEW get even 70% on it) I can happily say that I don't go by first appearances. Heck, after hearing about some of you, I will even reserve judgement in person.

Well as long you don't make your employees give specific examples of when you were the greatest worker on earth that sounds pretty ideal to me. I suck at specifics. In person when I try to get really descriptive about anything I don't care about it's like being hit on the head with a hammer. A lot of the questions the interviewer asks me I dont even "get" them. It's like some esoteric philsophy in which I must dive in my past to come up with concrete information of how I dealt with something or made someone feel something. I don't remember like that, especially on the spot. I don't have that type of perspective. I am not the center of my own universe in which i meticulously memorize every detail of my existence. I rather spend my memory space on understanding theories and concepts and better ways of doing things.


They want me to wait.

I never understood that either. This one job I had during the training sessions the group always had to wait to turn on their computers and navigate through the system simultaneously as if we dare not venture forward without the supervisor's approval. This type of behavior really screwed me up as kid b/c I could never figure out which were the times to wait for others or go out on your own.



Yet I can't even get the mere title because I have no "people skills". Instead, they have 4-6 people ask me the SAME questions and asking for a time estimate(Which often means that the later people are asking about a problem that exists only because the earlier people distracted me from finishing!), because they are going to the SAME meeting, and want to report on the SAME THING!

Same questions make me feel crazy. I once read somewhere that on a lot psch evalutions the shrinks use repetitive questioning as a means to determine consistency. I guess inconsistent pple are considered crazy. I think it's terrible that pple use this technique to comfort themselves that you understand them. Like I always tell my mom, I heard you the first time.

So I really have to wonder what good people skills are at work? WHY? So you can tell some jerk to get lost? So the jerks can keep their jobs even though they are really WASTING money? WHO KNOWS.

So they are comfortable in their job I think. I find that NTs take great comfort in knowing that you care about human interaction as much as they do and hence all is right in the world. The problem is what makes me uncomfortable makes them comfortable and vice versa. A lot of this can go away if honesty was brought into the equation but at work your suppose to be the role assigned to you. LOL it is kind of interesting how much people struggle with going around that taboo by wasting time on useless meetings, pig-outs, and water cooler gossip. It's like they can't let go of who they are outside of work to focus on getting the job done.

NOPE! I missed social skills mainly for friends, and getting a nice wife. Otherwise, GOOD RIDDANCE![/quote]

Quality over quantity I say. I have met few pple on this planet with whom I like to interact with and I wouldn't trade those experiences for a cabal of fairweather friends and lovers.

I went through a phase where I did attempt to get in touch with those I was in school with, to find few wanted contact with me, and those who did had married, had children, got 9-5 jobs etc etc.

For a time, I was very saddened. It felt as if I had gotten left behind and failed in life.

I am only really now trying to learn to value who I am with my differences. But I cannot help but still feel I have failed in that I am stuck and jobless and directionless.

nope. I have to have things a certain way for me to create so I don't care what other people get up to and their pleasure does not mean I lost pleasure. It's not a zero sum game for me. It's a private game and there isn't any else playing so I don't care what goes on off my chessboard.

In general, nope, achievements "in life" have almost no value to me. If a person is happy or not is what I look at and care about.

Since I found out I've got Aspergers, I do however compare my learning speed, skill levels and stuff like that to NT's, as a constant reminder that having Aspergers does have its MAJOR good sides, so that its easier to deal with some of the obvious downsides.

In everything I do and everything that interests me, I blow NT's out of the water with virtually no effort and a lot of fun.
While an NT can be learning and training to be good at something I also do, while they are getting stressed and miserable with every obstacle, trying to be the best they can, I'll have fun learning it in a fraction of the time they do, fun doing it, while doing it better then they could ever, fun finding a unlimited ways of doing the same things better and faster and pure unadulterated (rivaling sex) fun running into obstacles that make learning something even more of a challenge while solving and passing the obstacles at a much higher speed they can.

As for the reasons why achievements don't count for s**t to me, I know plenty of people who have loads of money, a hot wife and a high position in a company and the community, who are utterly miserable, while I also know more people who almost have nothing, but are happy as can be.