I'm beginning to really dislike this board!

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good. glad you see that. now try to remember it for the next minute...


??? WTF? the forum "encourages" what type of stuff? being yourself???


ok, well, no. it is not your issue. but you COULD try to be a good monkey instead of an evil one. and here you go with the CAN'T again... look, you CAN'T tell someone, "oh, just stop getting a panic attack." a panic attack is not something that responds to logic or reason, because usually it is NOT logical, but it still HAPPENS to people, so no, that is not your problem, but being condescending about people who freak out over "internet text" is pretty blind of you. even if you have never experienced something like that, the concept should be comprehensible. but i will not be so presumptious as to say you CAN'T understand, just that you obviously DON'T.


ok, well, then why the hell are you here??? And i am not angry or upset, more perplexed, but i am just quite serious when i say you appear to be quite severely troubled, and i think the last sentence is how many people feel about YOU. so perhaps you need to look more closely at yourself and not be so critical of others.

Evilmonkey, are you the one 'making excuses' now? You are on the spectrum so you can't be expected to think about others?

If you want understanding for your problem area's, can you not accept those of others?

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I failed to read spazmaticstitch's follow-up post, or understand some of what was going on so I guess I shouldn't have posted.
In light of this much of my argument doesn't make sense anymore because I thought the panic attack was over much less than it actually was, I didn't see how realistically it paralleled with your actual life.

I guess all my previous posts in this thread are kinda void now, but I'm glad to know what you guys were on about.

I do actually like the idea of being the 'tough guy' but there are so many misconceptions about that, in this thread I would've classified myself as "dick head"

Tough people don't hurt others, they protect them.

I feel for ya spazmaticstitch, you have to go through alot more than I ever have yet

um... i could make you my "special project"
hmmm? make you cry for days? so you could be less of a dick head, more of a martyr complex? what do you think?

You cant make me cry for days I don't have that much blood.

Hey,

It's ok...I am beginning to see "Ticker" in an whole new light this morning and wondering if anything she says has ever been true...maybe she just likes devising complicated ways to hurt people because it makes her feel in control?

But that is not your problem...your problem is that you are going to come across "Tickers" your whole life and you need to toughen yourself up to them.

The GOOD news is that the only thing you need to toughen up is your SELF ESTEEM.

As long as YOU know that you are doing your best most of the time (I say "most" because we aren't even meant to be perfect) you are the ONLY witness you need to that...and nothing anybody say should be able to hurt you.

M

I just posted a comment in the Mommy thread.

Spaz, listen to mechanima and richardbenson. They gave excellent advice. Good luck.

a well known example of LFAs and using computers would be Luke Jacksons' brother-Ben.
not sure if he is still LFA,but he was able to use a computer since he was a young boy.

being able to use a computer is not a way to judge someone on how good they would be for work,am suggest to those who assume people who can use computers or/and go on forums=can work a normal job should go on the bbcs' ouch forum,there are people on there who are severely physically disabled and dying from their condition,who can't work but can use the forum.
many people with aspergers and autism have complex needs,might also need to be supported and might have mental health problems which often can make them unsuitable in employement,of the traditional kind anyway.

for those that think the ability to put thoughts into words [like on a forum] equals being mildly affected and able to work in anything,they should read/watch the doccumentaries about Tito Mukhopadhyay-a NV LFAer who has been said to have even more ability than a lot of hfaers and nts with putting thoughts and feelings into words,and with general writing,he wouldn't be able to do many jobs, but would be great as a writer.


spazmaticstitch,
don't leave the forum because of someone else,have as much right to use the forum as the rest.

Amanda Baggs uses the computer and she is LFA too. On AFF, there was a poster on ther who was also LFA and she used a computer too and she even made her own youtube videos also. But she got banned on there due to making false assumptions and accusations. I wonder if LFA's can get a job working on the computer like computer programming? Like I said, it's tough to a find a job that is suitable for them. When few make it, that is very great.

Thank you to the people who posted to support me.
& Evilmonkey, at first I was a bit upset by your posts, but I can understand that if you didn't read my second post, you wouldn't really understand my situation. My life is very complicated right now.
I think everyone on here has different situations so what works for one person, may not work for everyone. I wish everyone could just try to get along & not pick on others. Autism is so different in each person that has it, that is what makes it so complicated.

sigh. sweetie, BLOOD has little to do with it.

that is kind of the whole point.

spazmaticstitch
I know what you mean I have just read that whole thread and my tummy is doing somersaults. Its just ticker's point of view and one I can understand I wish I could work hard too and hopefully I will, but for some full time employment is not possible. Don't worry and stay on WP. This is the first time I've ever read a post that criticises those who do not work. This forum can be such a help and a great sounding board, don't go!

Same applies to almost everybody, NT's included. Worse in fact for them, as despite having no disabilities, they still live lives of dull conformity.

In the yahoo group freethinkingunschoolers there seem to be quite a few aspies...

Anyway, I think there is a balance...I DO agree that sometimes people don't do things because they just don't believe in themselves, etc...and sometimes, it's just too hard...Honestly, I've worked at the same job for 19 years, but I think that some of my issues are getting worse, not better and I have gone from someone who was constantly told that I had the highest work ethics, to someone who sometimes just can't think...it's too much...maybe it's other stress, maybe it's age, I don't know...but I think I can relate to both sides here...

However, I have a GOOD dear friend who once said some NASTY things to me to the point of making me cry on more than a few occassions...at the end, he WAS RIGHT...he also told me that only the people who didn't truly care would ALWAYS just listen instead of telling me to get my head out of my .... and you know, he was right...He made me take a good luck and realize many things about myself and at the end, I am a better person for it...It was difficult, but sometimes what is best for us is difficult to hear...if it wasn't good for us, it wouldn't hit us so hard...Mind you, there are different ways of saying things, but please don't let what someone said here be taken as a personal attack...instead, take a "time out" and figure out why it hurt so much...at the end, you might actually realize that it was something inside of you that agreed with them and do something about it...in a few months, or maybe even years, you will be thankful that someone was honest...

OMG... There is nothing about that post that upset me that I agree with in any way. All I am trying to get across is that I CAN't work!! !! AT ALLL!! !! !! how many times do I have to say this!! ! My mom, therapist, & even the people who helped me get disability all know I can't work, yet people on this stupid website who don't even know me think I can & that I'm just lazy. I am sick of this!