Does It Offend You . . .

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I think I am self-centered in some ways. I often put my own interests before others. However I am also more gentle and kind than a lot of people. I don't make judgements on other people or look down on them for being different (as long as they aren't total jerks).

So maybe I don't go out of my way to be freindly or nice to others. So what? At least I don't go out of my way to be a complete jack*ss to others (this seems to be more common with NTs - read bullies).

No it doesn't offend me. We do appear that way and act that way. But NTs act that way too and act self centered too sometimes.

Self-centered, as in having my own unique opinions and ideas, staying true to my beliefs, being independant and not really needing a lot of persons around me to enjoy my life? And I should be offended by that?

Not at all. I used to be bothered by my mother telling me that I'm self-centered, but now if people say that, I only know that they simply don't understand me, and are probably not worth being my friends, since they probably won't accept me for who I am. I'm especially not bothered by people saying I'm cold or compassionless because that's what I am.

Depends - Will they be offended if I call them fakey, shallow, and stupid?

It doesn't offend me, it annoys me. People should get to know you before judging you. End of.

We aren't that way to be s**ts. It's how we're built. So I think it would depend how it's put across.

I accept that I am (I have a psch appraisal that says I am and family who have not see it say I can be) but I don't think of myself as self centred.

I can be very focused on what I am doing. Does that make me self centred?

I prefer the term self-absorbed to selfish. Selfish implies that I don't care about others. I do. But I am self-absorbed a lot of the time (thinking about myself, understanding myself, talking about myself). The paradox is that insight gives me something to offer others, if they ask (sometimes even when they don't)

I have to admit that I probably am a bit self-centered. I am a lot better than I used to be.

The aspies I know are the LEAST cold and compassionate out of everyone I've ever known. I can't tell you how many times I've cried out my insecurites to bf's dad and he listened and offered suggestions. Anytime I've gotten close to doing that with NTs they end up making nasty remarks about what i'm talking about.

It doesn't bother me that people think we're self-centred. Most people are, it's just that most people don't admit it even to themselves.
It saddens me that people think that we are cold and compassionless. Some of us are, just as some NTs are. However, from what I've seen, most Aspies have plenty of compassion. The problem we having is in reading emotional situations and knowing how to respond to them.

that makes sense. I just hate it when people say hurtful stuff about me that isn't true. anyway sometimes people call u selfish just cos they can' t get their way.(peoples have done that to me)