Romanticism and Asperger's Syndrome?

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God knows why but I am also probably a romantic.

I say god knows why because some of this stuff makes me cringe. lol

Aspies persuing this stuff well - I don't actually know if we can help but be a romantic - read the traits... it all seems to fit the bill.

The first several posts of this thread really describes how I feel as well. It's so unbelievable that the feelings are so strong, that it just totally mystifies me. I know I may not act like I love the person a lot, I try to be calm and I tend to look emotionless a lot, but deep inside, the feelings burn so powerfully that it feels like I will explode into a million pieces. A lot of times, I just don't know how to act out on those feelings. I have a girlfriend and it feels great, but I still get confused as to how to act a lot. Deep down I love her very much, but a lot of times I appear emotionless, and that must be hard for her, but she's understanding. However, I still get confused and amazed as to how strong those feelings are. I try my best for her and she knows I try. I try hard to make her happy and to do things right.

It actually is comforting to see other people say things that turn out to be similar to how I feel. I still have trouble expressing myself and I try to work on that, but I find expressing is very difficult to do, for some reason. So, it's normal for me to just sit emotionless and stare. I Sometimes, I am amazed that I have such a caring and understanding girlfriend that helps me along even through my rough times. The feelings are so unbelievably complex.

You know what I mean?

I a hopeless romantic. Which helps sometimes, because I can romanticize tough situations.

I'll also toss my hat in as a hardcore romantic. My logical, analytical side is very powerful, and I call on it frequently; but I enjoy my romantic side much more, following passions, being whimsical and creative, dreaming, wanting to love and be loved... There's an asynchronicity between these two sides that causes me to be a bit unbalanced on occasion; but this is also what makes me the unique, interesting person who I am. I can derive great energies from the tension of furies within me; I am depicted well by the taijitu.

Follow your head, follow your heart, or follow your gut? I often go with my heart, and tend to advise others to do so also, which I think is a hallmark of being romantic. This gets me into trouble sometimes. But Icarus ain't changin'. Following my heart has certainly caused me some heartache; but it has also led me to take some big risks that garnered big rewards. I'd probably still be living in Florida earning computer monkey wage if I had not gone for broke followed my heart to Seattle, where I found a dream job with a dream company.

Romantic aspies unite!

Good fortune,

- Icarus is a hopeless romantic...