Confused on how to help my child.....

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Ddosage amounts can make a difference. But, if
that doesn't work, maybe he needs to try a different
med. We went through Strattera, Concerta and Adderal
before we found what he is taking now. We went to
Parent/Teacher conference and the teacher said that
he has been very focused in class, getting his books,
paying attention...etc......This is the first time that we
had positive input regarding his class time. Before, the
teacher said he was unorganized, not paying attention,
playing with his pencil...etc.....he was still getting good
grades but he wasn't focused with what was going on in
the classroom.

My feet sweat a lot especially if my shoes don't breathe well. I have found that certain socks make it worse as they just seem to hold on to the moisture. My current solution is to not wear thick sports like socks and make sure that any shoes I get have a breathable mesh like fabric near the toe section.
When you ask him if his feet "fell asleep" do you use that phrase? Because it took me a long time to understand that it meant being all prickly and painful and numb at the same time. He might be thinking you mean his foot is actually sleeping like a person at night snoring away on a pillow.

We've explained what it meant. he's slept on his arm and not be able to move it. That's how I got him to understand the concept.

He still says no.

They've checked him for diabetes....I don't know.

I wonder if your son is not approaching puberty. All hell broke loose in our house when puberty hit. So....all of this eruption in symptoms could be an outward showing for that.

My son has always been a sweater. He sweats abnormally much and always seems hot. Feet especially.

We all use things to make our lives a little better, I wonder if an MP3 player with headphones wouldn't be a good source of social camouflage when things are getting to overwhelming in the sound department. It looks normal, but has the nice side benefit of drowning out the noise. I got my son a pair of Skullcandy headphones that are pretty effective at drowning out the noise even when they are not plugged into the music.

2ukenkerl,

you're probably right. His school troubles are a lot better. he's not being bullied anymore. he's also in Taekwondo (Has been a several months) and that has helped some with eye contact but not "I'm not going to be bullied by you" attitude.

He's just a free soul. He'd rather ignore and walk off than stand up for himself. he does well in class and has 1 friend from that class that has ADHD. They're like two peas in a pod but school life affects him tremendously!

I'm trying to think of other things that might be helpful for you.

I'm glad that your son has mastered the art of walking away. That's one of the most difficult skills. My son always tends to act like a weasel trapped in a corner and comes out swinging.

What I see in my professional experience is that when children are stressed, sometimes they can hold it together at school, but when they get home, because it's a safe place for them to explode, they tend to. I even do this still...

I think putting him in Tae Kwon Do was a good idea. Another thing that seems to help at our house with aggressiveness and anger is rolling on the balance ball, working out on the ab lounger or using the eliptical machine. We (as in AS people) need certain kinds of movements because of our sensory issues and some kinds of movement tend to help with the overwhelming effect of the situations that we find ourselves in. We call it "putting our wah back in whack" around here.

This morning was awful. I ended up spanking him before he went to school. I should've tried a little harder to deal with him but he's becoming more aggitated in the mornings.
He got up and was fine he went in there to eat.
I got his clothes for him and told him to get dressed after he ate. He then told me he didn't eat and started crying. I WATCHED HIM EAT! Then he refused to get dressed.

Running through the house to hide. FINALLY....he started to get dressed and kept acting like he was going to punch me. (NOT PLAYING) I kept telling him to stop and he started making faces at me.

So then I took his medicine and put it in a little water. (WE WON'T SWALLOW A PILL) he pours it down the sink! AAGGHHH!! !! Had to do it again. Controlled substance child, insurance & doc just isn't going to give me more because you have an attitude today!

Then he kept swatting me. I told him to stop before I spanked him. He told me to go ahead. Then after he kept telling me I hurt him.

He had a horrible day at school yesterday. I really believe that it's this new medicine he's on bringing out this attitude. I don't know what is going on with him. I'm calling his doc today.

ANY ADVICE???????

Could it be that his socks are irritating his feet, hence the tickly feeling? Tactile hypersensitivity can be a part of AS. It could be the material, or maybe the seams. My cousin is autistic and she would rip all of her clothes off until someone designed suits that were all in one piece with no seams, just a zip up the back. Those are all she'll wear. Maybe seamless socks (if you can get them) with material that breathes would help.

I had speech therapy when I was younger. The pronunciation problems could be a result of difficulties with moving his mouth, lips and tongue into the right position, or they could be related to an auditory processing problem- he might be mishearing what you want him to say. Auditory processing problems and oversensitive hearing can and do co-occur: I have both.

You sound like you really care for your child. I wish you luck in helping him.