Love and Relationships for an Aspie boy in love?

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Forget about her and go on with your life. Your behavior is borderline stalking if you keep it up. The girl has a boyfriend so why are you still pursuing her anyway? If she was interested she would have contacted you by now.

In the future, do NOT have a friend tell a woman you are autistic. This is akin to shooting yourself in the foot. Only tell someone once you have been dating a long time and all of your friends around you are sure the girl likes you. I say make sure your friends are sure because Aspies often tend to misunderstand someone who is being nice out of social necessity with someone who truly is attracted to them. You're friends will be able to tell the difference.

This seems like a common aspie theme; too much too fast at asynchronous intervals; not understanding the boundaries that will freak someone else out through simple honesty; overestimating acceptance and tolerance; doing things in an improper order when you do not understand what the proper order is.

There comes a point where all you can do is make things worse; learn to recognize when you're digging your own grave, and stop digging while the grave is still shallow enough to climb out of (if you're lucky).

You found a "perfect" girl; congratulations; hearing this will not making "letting go" of the current perfect girl go any less painful; but there are lots and lots of "perfect" girls out there. There are 6.5 billion humans on this planet, just over 50% of which are female; do the math, and move on to the next "perfect" girl. Finding her may not be trivial, but it is also far from impossible; learn lessons from your current experience, and apply them to your next.

Good fortune,

- Icarus takes comfort in luck and numbers...