be open and honest? Thats normally why they are upset. Aspies love open and honest, its one of the reasons things often dont go well.
I find knowing what to do especially hard with women since if they dont want to talk about it they say "I dont want to talk about it" and if they do want to talk about it they say "I dont want to talk about it"
Once I asked a female friend (NT) why women dont just tell guys. Her answer was, "If you really cared about us you would know". I wasn't even able to put into words my reaction to that. Still cant... think I just started twitching in frustration