Blunders you've made for being naive?

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Had one at work today. I was told by my manager to 'see Ms.******' regarding a task,so I didnt move. So my line manager repeated her instruction, and I said, 'It's OK, I can see her from here'. What she meant, she explained was that she wanted me to go and talk to her. Duh!

Do 2 failed marriages count? Cause I sure believed everything both of them told me. Feel like an idiot now suffice to say.

I've been victim to this many times. In the past I had a lot of trouble saying "NO" to people because I wanted them to like me. When they would ask for things like money or want me to do something for them...I would always say yes, I'll do it...not anymore.

In high school, there was this group of three students I used to sit with in the cafeteria 2nd semester of Freshman year. They lied about their names, probably understanding that I'd never catch on. I didn't catch on for about 2 months.

I've never been good at catching lies or tricks.

Loads in the past... not so many in recent history but still a few - and when they happen it feels totally bizarre because it feels so out of character, and it is. I'm not naive anymore, or maybe there are a few things that I ain't accustomed to and still a bit naive about, but I'm still aware of it... it feels totally bizarre when I make blunders these days through that kind of thing.

I was ringing the bell outside of Wal-Mart for people to put donations in the little red bucket. This lady asked me how she could sign up to be the recipient. I stared at her hair blankly and thought for a few seconds before telling her that I didn't know. She then gave me the weirdest look ever
and explained to me that it was a joke. I tried to fake a laugh to be nice as she left. She never gave me any money either after all that.
Needless to say it was a classic Aspie moment.

That reminds me of one time when I was talking on the phone to a comcast person and when I told her I lived on a street called impala she said,

Comcast lady: "Are there lots of Impalas over there?"

After looking outside I say all serious "Nope, don't think so"

Comcast lady: "I was just joking...Trying to make you laugh... I thought it would be funny..."

Me: "Oh"

I felt embarassed about that.

That sounds familiar.

For about two months, I had a "friend" who told me his name was "Jehosephat".

Yep.

I still keep saying yes to just about anything people ask me to do, even when I know that they won't pay me back or they're manipulating me into doing there work. Sometimes I try to refuse but if they push I almost always give in. Any tips on how to get people to back off without pissing them off?

Always remember this one time at primary school, this kid told me to roll up the sleeves of my sweater over my long shirt sleeves, he did it, and said it would be cool. I did, he rolled his back down, and pointed and laughed. Oh, how they did. Making false friends who turned out to be nothing but bullies, that was a big blunder.

I was very navie as a child and teenager. Always lending stuff, giving stuff to people, doing things for other people, being taken advantage of just to be liked.

When I was seven there was this one kid i would play street hockey with lots or just hangout playing videogames etc. He verbally invited me to his birthday party and when i showed up he claimed i was never invited because he didn't give me an actual paper inviation. Needless to say i fell for it again the next year.
The one time he wrote out a little note as follows:
I will be your best friend if you give me your Calgary flames program with all their signatures. Yes or No.
I choose yes.
He also recommended i should try out for a certain hockey team, and eventually figured out he was just taking advantage of me. Ever since then when people ask me to try out for a sports team im very skeptical and usually don't do it.

Any tips on how to get people to back off without pissing them off?

That's precisely the trick. When people sense you don't want to piss them off, they never back off. They have a trump card that works well with you, so why would they?

I was very naive when I was a kid. I believed about everything they said. I bet they got a kick out of it.

Today I still fall for some things like the time someone called me and told me the warranty on my car is about up and I didn't even know I had a warranty on it and I was in the middle of watching Benny & Joon and I didn't want to go through all the money finances and all about interests costs of how much it would cost for me to renew it and they were going to transfer me over to someone who would discuss the cost for me for low income people but because I knew it was going to take too long and use up my free time before work, I told her this was all complicated and my parents understand it better and told them they can call them and I gave them their number. I don't think they ever called because I asked my dad about it and he didn't seem to know anything about it and told me my car title is salvaged and if they knew they wouldn't have wanted to sell anything to me and they were just trying to sell me something and told me he gets those calls too. But the lady on the phone told me The car was on warranty ever since it left the factory and it's about to expire soon and somehow she knew I was the current person of it and knew my phone number.



I used to give people my stuff because they said they be my friend and if I didn't they wouldn't be my friend anymore. But they would keep asking for more and more and I have also lended people stuff, let my last boyfriend take my $100 dollars from me so he could buy a bumper off ebay for me and my mother says he probably never did it and just wanted money from me and I fell for it. I dunno if I was taken advantage of or not. Another time I worked at the newspaper shack with him every Sunday and he said I was getting paid for it and I never got a paycheck from his boss. He kept forgetting to get it from him and I stopped asking him about it when he was rude to me on the phone one night. Sometimes I wonder if he did that just to scare me off and it worked all right but it made me want to move on because I had enough of it.

Sometimes I get rude to people on purpose by yelling and screaming at them and swearing just so they would leave me alone and never ever bother me again because they think I'm a b***h so they leave me alone forever and I wouldn't have to worry about them ever again.

To this day I hate it when people stop me on the streets or in the malls trying to sell me something, I also hate it when people ask for change. I don't give them anything knowing they could be people who do have a house and they aren't really homeless but just pretending to be so they would get money. Amazing how many people fall for it because they get hundreds of dollars a day I heard and they don't even have bank accounts because they get all cash and change.

Even NTs are naive too. You just have to have good common sense to stay out of scams and not falling for commercials, and stay away from people who are trying to sell you something in the street that is sold out in stores. Just don't ever buy from them because the product could be a fake. I learn from watching TV.


I'm still a little naive today because I still fall for sarcasm and jokes and I still misunderstand people because I take things so literal.

One kid constantly lied to me. He would tell me about all these toys that never existed, and "there was only one store where you can get them" which also didn't exist. I would tell my brother how much I wanted the Godzilla that sprayed real fire and he would reply "He is lying. There's no such toy." I would constantly think "Why would he lie about that?" I never understood the motivation.

I still don't understand the motivation for most lying. I looked at a book last week that tried to make the arguement: lying is natural and neccessary. It's what we should do and it's expected. I thought "Great. Another reason to be alienated from society." The lying is so bad that a law is being considered. Check this article out: http://www.nytimes.com/2007/12/24/busin ... ref=slogin

I believed practically anything I was told, and to a certain extent still do. On the plus side (maybe that should be weird side) at the same time as believing everything I believe absolutely nothing because i have learnt through misplaced trust that people lie about a almost everything. Anyone selling anything must not be trusted. If someone has a financial gain to be made from any product they are offering for purchase then i never trust them, i always get independant reviews.
I can't think of any specific examples this second but I do know that I instantly look at every situation i am presented with and i look for the trick, or catch, or downside, or small print simply because I have learnt through experience.
Just like someone else who wrote here before me I too get the reaction "I was only joking you know" when I don't react the "right" way to something someone has said to me when they're trying to be amusing.
Apologies for the lack of capital letters in places, terrible grammar, and also slightly random wandering of the post. I'm tired and i've eaten way too much chocolate for the past few days and i haven't had a chance to exercise for a week now and it's driving me a little loopy!