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Neigh, neigh...I'd love to prance back to the simpler life. There was something exciting about being a wild stallion as a child. Maybe it's because children are allowed to behave that way, but as an adult...well, it could cause problems if someone saw it continue.

That reminds me of a bumper sticker mentioned at an aspie conference that said, "You don't stop playing because you're old; you're old because you stop playing."

Yeah, me too.

Why do people have kids? I think you'd have to be insane.

WOW! So the birds and the bees story covers that? Nobody ever told me about the birds and the bees. OH, I know how they do it, and a lot of specifics that certainly wouldn't be covered, and one of the first books I read showed anatomy as was geared towards teens.

I even once got my mother to buy a book a pediatrician sold that talked about something I hadn't heard before, and no books seemed to talk about. It's a pity that I didn't think any girls would be interested in me, and I was a little too private.(I wouldn't talk about things so private, etc...) I bet some of THEM didn't know about it! HEY, I was born in the 60s. (Oh well, most here probably know what I am talking about. I think I was like 7 at the time, and everything was still censored.) And YEAH, the book talked about a LOT of things with both sexes, but I knew all the other stuff.

As for WHY people have kids? I think it is USUALLY just stupidity, to have something to do, give pleasure, etc... The rest of the time may be curiousity, to feel complete in some way, etc... To give one answer would be silly.

Despite being a mother of 8 year old i virtually agree with you. It isn't even a biological urge, because the biological urge for children is just wanting to have sex ( before humans understood that m/f penetrative sex= babies there was no use wanting to have children; what would you do about it ?! !). It is a social or acquired urge, and as such doesn't necessarily have any basis in logic, either for species or individual.
It is a remarkably fragile social-construct, wanting to have babies, and has to be promoted and encouraged and enforced and advertised in order to perpetuate it. When it is shaky , say if women are getting restive, (!) then society starts promoting and encouraging sex instead.
Hence why the seventies saw women simultaneously chucking housework and full time motherhood in favour of work outside the home AND the mass promotion of sex.
Why did i do it at 35, after an abortion aged 19? I had never really been into sex much anyway,but then tumbled into situation where astonishingly sex was seriously fun, and got pregnant almost straight away. Deadly combination of unprecedently good sex and a reckless/personal development programme-encouraged attitude that if "let go"/stop trying to control things "Life" will hold you up/bring you what is best for you.
Insanity!!

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But what do you do if suddenly put together with two people with whom you have two entirely different communication styles? Which one gets prioritised? How does that make you feel?

So, what you're saying then is that your parents were probably stupid because they had you? I was attempting to be humorous by that one answer...couldn't you tell?

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I don't talk to two people at once. I'll answer each one separately, according to how I'm talked to.

APPARENTLY, MY parents were TRYING to have a kid. ALSO, my mother was a devout catholic which, at the time, mean NO protected sex or birth control pills.

Who knows, maybe THAT was one thing that split them up. My mother was told she couldn't handle another kid my size.

It happened on my birthday, last year, my noe ex girlfriend, mom, nan and sister all came together at once. I freaked out, ended up telling my sister to leave and that id walk down to hers straight away to visit her. Even though she had bought me a present! sister stormed off in a mood, my neice was with her, i never forgot that look she gave me, was nothing id seen before. My mother is used to my rudeness ( i dont do it on purpose) as for my girlfriend she was the most understanding but she couldn't see the problem still.

I quickly visited each on there own to say sorry in my own way, but ive done similar things since. Eg: not letting people in my flat becuase someone else is there.

Now people know instinctively the situation, for example i was in my brother inlaws house when my friend came, he actually went into another room lol, in his own house!

Appreciate that. and thank you for all your responses. I may or may not have AS, but i can definately symphasize with you all

let that sh-t out gunit, tell them. there comes a time when being carfull around others starts to suck. you need to let these people know what is up!