EvilKimEvil wrote:
This reminds me of something. I don't know how to deal with people who insult me when it's a co-worker or relative or someone else I have to interact with regularly. If I ignore them, they see me as an easy target and it gets worse. If I try to stand up for myself, I always end up accidentally sounding too angry or something and upsetting someone. A lot of NTs are good with those subtly defensive replies. I get so surprised when I'm insulted, I can never think of something to say.
Or I think of the BEST thing to say and it is too late. . or I DO say it and they say 'so?' and I thought it so
CRUSHING and they didn't even GET it.
I always go too far. I think what would pierce my thick skin and I go for about triple and I skewered too much, I went too far, I actually called a spade a spade, how dare I? I now have to listen to how they are attacked for no reason. How I am inappropriate because my observations on their behavior was certainly not called for, etc., etc.
And don't try to appeal to their better nature, because they will throw their momma under the truck if it means they don't have to be honest with themselves and apologize to the likes of
you!Good point. Perhaps there is no solution, no effective strategy. I guess the only thing to do is to try to see the humor in it. And if that's not possible, then try to forget about it. And if that's not possible, then deal with it through music or writing or whatever works . . .
22 Nov 2007, 9:50 pm
