What do you regret the most about your life with Asperger's?

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Being prevented from reaching my full career potential by NT colleagues who seem to take great pleasure in punishing me for my lack of 'chumminess'.

Also, any difficulties I may cause loved ones inadvertently. You know who you are.

I regret not finding out about AS earlier so I could learn some social skills (I have done this anyway but not very successfully) and find an explanation for my anxiety and depression. I regret not making more friends and not keeping in touch with the friends I made. I regret not developing my interests into a viable career.

I don't regret anything, there's always tomorrow....Katherine Mansfield said it best I think: make it a rule of life never to regret and never look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy, you can't build on it, it's only good for wallowing in.

Saying really, really stupid things, and the consequences said things have/had.

Not being able to make friends or to fully participate socially.

That I didn't find out when I was much younger

Can't think of anything.

I yam what I yam.

Find it difficult 2 make friends.

Getting nervous, which prevents me from passing my behind the wheel driver's test, and making embarrassing social blunders.

I don't regret anything per se...however, it makes me sad that I tried so hard to fit in as a kid and just never made it. I was always doomed to be a square peg. I made it positive with my son's AS though. I made a conscious choice to never let him feel like being different was a bad thing. He doesn't. I do hate meltdowns, now though. They seem so much more acute now that I'm older and they stress me out much much more.

I do also feel sad that no one knew what it was for those of us older than 16. Growing up weird definitely took a toll on our self images. However, in a way it made us more self reliant. The other thing it did was make life as we got older a little more difficult. I think a lot of us have just wandered in and out of jobs and schools trying to find that magical "thing" that would make it all fall into place.

[quote="Icarus_Falling"]

All you younglings in your teens who know what Asperger's is... COUNT YOUR FREAKING BLESSINGS. Imagine growing up the way you are, and having NO explanation for being how you are, other than you're "vastly different", or something like that. You wanna end up f**** up? Try that.



A little harsh Icarus, but I can relate. I wasn't dxd until the age of 35 and there wasn't any help for me for a long time. That is perhaps my biggest regret- that I didn't find out sooner. Finding out sooner and getting help sooner might have spared me a lot of suffering.

Distance learning!! !! !!
I dropped out of school and two colleges despite having high IQ... but now I do Open University. I'm realising how much I actually love education without all the crap that comes with being in a classroom. If you don't have a husband/wife or kids to take up your time that makes it easier for you to do it!

I regret the fact that I've never learnt to socialise without alcohol. Its just always been there and now I don't want it I'm terrified to go out without it.

It depends on how you define regret. I can't regret anything, because I did the most with the little support and understanding of society that I had.

I do wish I'd known earlier about AS, so I wouldn't have spent my life trying to change and blaming myself for not having a social clue.

So were Romulus and Remus, the founders of autism.

Having been raised by wolves sometimes makes it hard to interface with the machine, but at the same time it makes it difficult for the machine to fully assimilate me, which is something that I seek to prevent; I believe you can relate to that, or at least the former part of it...


Please excuse; harsh is just a hammer that I sometimes try to use to try to drive a nail of thought through the skull into the mind; sometimes the nail goes in; sometimes it bends; but people generally notice the bang, either way.

Good fortune,

- Icarus is a feral thought carpenter...

I wish that I could have found out earlier so I wouldn't have to go throught what i did in elememtry and middle school and maybe my experience would have been different if educators and the healthcare system knew more about autism back then ,but also a side-effect from the treatment i recieved for cancer does cause social problems so i just ended up a guinea pig for medical science, but at least they don't use that protocol anymore. Still i suffered and who knows I might have always been autistic even if i didn't get sick. I feel bad that I make things difficult at home and that's why we don't have friends anymore,but it shouldnt matter because if they can't accept meas for me then it's their loss. that's all I really regret, I'm fine with the rest of me and that i'm unique.

It's nice to know I'm not alone!

Icarus_Falling wrote: Please excuse; harsh is just a hammer that I sometimes try to use to try to drive a nail of thought through the skull into the mind; sometimes the nail goes in; sometimes it bends; but people generally notice the bang, either way.
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No problem; I figured that's what you were probably doing. Sometimes I do the same thing.