Laid-back or rigid, which one?

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me too. i rember someone saying how laid back i was and just thing "wtf? no way" however i can see how people could thing that, appart from the times i can't hold it together.

I'm like a swan - serene on the surface,but paddling like fury underwater.

I have been told I'm too laid back, too easygoing a number of times.

I lack motivation, I don't know what to strive for anyway.

This describes me as well. I'm phlegmatic in that I'm a quiet person and don't want to cause stress by being too demanding or argumentative, but on the other hand, I always plan things out, I over-analyze everything, and I don't like being jerked around. I have my opinions and make decisions, I'm just so peaceful that I don't APPEAR very opinionated, or like a good decision-maker.

I'm very laid-back, and tolerant. Most instances of me seeming to act otherwise are just misunderstandings due to AS-related things like talking in the wrong tone or not smiling much.

I consider myself very laid-back.

hmm...a certain amount of 'rigidity' isn't all that bad. I crave a sense of order about things, and get annoyed when there's no order whatsoever.

I'm laid back in that I choose my battles. If it's not important, I let it slide

I would say it really depends on what is going on and how I feel.

If I am tired or in pain, I tend to be very rigid and my stimming gets worse. My need for routine gets more pronounced and I am much less flexible and irritable with people.

When I am feeling well and rested, I tend to be more laid back and am open to new things and experiences. When I am like this even the most rude counter help does not make me upset.

Rigid. I went to a relative's house to have a mock job interview where he recorded me. I'm extremely stiff in my posture, don't normally use any gestures, and speak in monotone. I do this even when I think I'm doing otherwise. I never noticed these traits in me were this bad, even if I knew they were present from feedback from others.


When I was a child, I used to keep to a schedule, but since adolescence, that became impossible and my organization completely broke down. Now I have no organization. For the last few years, my room was literally a fire hazard with clothes and papers impeding anyone from walking. I recently cleaned it though, for the first time in years.

I am extreamly rigid, even when I should be relaxing, I always worry, I always want to be prepaired, have a plan, always think of possible future problems, always worried now I will mess up and screw up my life, in the end everything must go according to plan.

Im not like that 24/7, but close enough.

I'm perceived as rigid by non-autistic people, but in truth I'm very laid back. I have few routines and I'm the last person who would openly judge someone else's behaviour for silly reasons. I'm calm on the inside and I really can't do with the fast paced ways of some people who seem to be hectic 24/7 and never get it fast enough done. From experience I know that those things that cause an uproar in others don't affect me, but of course, other few situations do that instead, like someone just being unfair. It's a cliché, but I hate unfairness, I can't stand it.

I have PDD-NOS, I did not qualify for the diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome because I was not rigid enough.
I had no schedules I had to keep to.
I cannot keep myself to a schedule, I do not have the discipline.
If someone outside of me would help me until I could do it myself I could but now, I cannot.
I never like when something happens that is unexpected AND affects me directly.
But any change that affects me directly is not nice.
I hate it when people visit.
I hate it when people want to talk to me.
I hate it when people come in my room.

I am very laid-back for an autistic person, but many people are more laid-back than I am.
I am sub-clinical but not quite laid-back.

I am the extremely small rock, things have very little chance of touching me, but if they do, I sort of explode into a much bigger rock.

Both of these quotes describe me well.

I am very laid back but my husband thinks I'm rigid. Whatever.

I don't think I am as rigid as some people think I am. Why? Because if a blind person needs everything to stay in the same place, in order to be able to find it, then nobody calls them rigid.

I have a really hard time perceiving where something has moved to because of visual processing problems. And I have a hard time calling up all the perceptual and motor resources to react to many kinds of change quickly. So my reasons for things to stay the same are essentially similar to a blind person's. But since it is considered okay or even expected to call autistic people rigid (because of a bias about our reasons that has existed since the word autism was first applied to us), I get called rigid.

I don't think I am the most laid back person in the world but not the most rigid either regardless of how people see me. Outside of the areas I need to stay the same for perceptual or motor reasons, I can be quite accommodating about changes people have to make.

Also, there was a time in my life when I still got utterly disoriented by change, but willingly embraced the disorientation and chaos. This was interesting but led to all kinds of problems.

People tell me that I come across as very rigid. I would say that I'm quite rigid in my thought, as well.