Body Dysmorphic Disorder stemming from AS?

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28 Nov 2007, 6:45 pm

I have always struggled with nutrition problems mostly because im obsessed with it. I go through faises where i try to lose as musch weight as i can by starving and occasionally (im so ashamed) making myself vomit. See people use to say i was solid looking when i was a kid and i took that to mean fat so even as a kid i talked nonstop about fat, calories and what foods were outlawed from touching my lips. luckily it has never gotten to far as. as soon as people start saying im scrawny looking i desperately try to build my muscle. Lately iv been rock smashing its a hobby of mine, and i think right now one of the reasons im not getting employed is because they think im weak. Im not vain please noone say i am but i just want to be liked. im a healthy weight right now im 46 kilograms and im 155 centimeters but the weight training is making me lose weight cause i really hate eating and strangely im feeling happy even though i know all my hard efforts to build my muscles is going to waist. So yes peoples opinions affect how i perceive myself :cry:


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28 Nov 2007, 10:24 pm

[quote="KristaMeth".[/quote]

Same :/[/quote]

Well I did not want to mention it, but, your eyes, both of them, and then on your head, hair, at least it hides your ears. Perhaps if you combed it forward, cover that black scar on your left lower lip? You just look so pink and girl like, know what I mean?

Then there is what you wear, they make these big feed sacks, real big, you can get them at the mill. why, cut a couple of eye holes, and you could pass without notice anywhere, as long as you don't go out to eat. Women invented the Burkka. They should also wear gloves, no mittens, leaving their hands sticking out like that, what is the world coming to?

I am glad you show common sense, gain forty pounds and I will trade two camels for you. They are not really good camels, but one of them may live for a few more years.

I have been to many markets where women are sold, you would bring a good price, can you dance?

If the flesh is taken, I still like what is inside.

It would be very improper to speak of someone's mother, a woman in a commited relationship, as a Total Hottie, I would never say such a thing, no matter my private thoughts. More of a good thing is better.



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28 Nov 2007, 11:01 pm

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Well I did not want to mention it, but, your eyes, both of them, and then on your head, hair, at least it hides your ears. Perhaps if you combed it forward, cover that black scar on your left lower lip? You just look so pink and girl like, know what I mean?

Then there is what you wear, they make these big feed sacks, real big, you can get them at the mill. why, cut a couple of eye holes, and you could pass without notice anywhere, as long as you don't go out to eat. Women invented the Burkka. They should also wear gloves, no mittens, leaving their hands sticking out like that, what is the world coming to?

I am glad you show common sense, gain forty pounds and I will trade two camels for you. They are not really good camels, but one of them may live for a few more years.

I have been to many markets where women are sold, you would bring a good price, can you dance?

If the flesh is taken, I still like what is inside.

It would be very improper to speak of someone's mother, a woman in a commited relationship, as a Total Hottie, I would never say such a thing, no matter my private thoughts. More of a good thing is better.


Ummmmmm. Should I have been able to easily follow that?

I felt insulted for a second. Then confused. Then insulted again. Then flattered. Then confused again.


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29 Nov 2007, 2:19 am

KristaMeth wrote:

Ummmmmm. Should I have been able to easily follow that?

I felt insulted for a second. Then confused. Then insulted again. Then flattered. Then confused again.


What was the flattering part?!

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29 Nov 2007, 7:00 am

I think maybe whats Inventor saying is that you are hottie, but that he shouldn't say so because you are a mother and in comitted relationship. But what do i know. Maybe what he's saying is that he wants to buy you for two camels. :P or maybe I should just be quiet :?



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29 Nov 2007, 7:32 am

Bolle47 wrote:
I think maybe whats Inventor saying is that you are hottie, but that he shouldn't say so because you are a mother and in comitted relationship. But what do i know. Maybe what he's saying is that he wants to buy you for two camels. :P or maybe I should just be quiet :?


Yes. Camels.


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29 Nov 2007, 7:43 am

Inventor wrote:
[quote="KristaMeth".


Same :/[/quote]

I still like what is inside.

a Total Hottie. More of a good thing is better.[/quote]



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29 Nov 2007, 10:37 am

KristaMeth wrote:
Bolle47 wrote:
I think maybe whats Inventor saying is that you are hottie, but that he shouldn't say so because you are a mother and in comitted relationship. But what do i know. Maybe what he's saying is that he wants to buy you for two camels. :P or maybe I should just be quiet :?


Yes. Camels.


Glad for the clarification 8O

Inventor sounded a little more like a schizophrenic run on.... :? tangentiality, maybe? 8O

but, if nothing else, the common train of thought is that we are crazily obsessing over yet another irrational thought...nothing new.

Yes, I agree. You are very beautiful KristaMeth:)


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29 Nov 2007, 10:57 am

KristaMeth wrote:
makelifehappen wrote:
I am very much like this.

It was so bad a couple of years ago that I went into a walk in clinic and asked them to refer me to see a psych. for my distorted body imagine issues and irrational actions in response to my thoughts.

I was wearing long clothing in the height of Canadian summer. I refused to engage in any summer activities such as swimming, etc (also affecting my daughter). I couldn't bear to look in a mirror (still can't, most days), but at every opportunity I would check reflective surfaces to make sure I was "tucked in" just right, covered appropriately, etc. I wouldn't let anyone near me, touch me, etc. I was rigidly paranoid about the way I moved my body to the point of strategically planning my movements, careful not to expose the ugly bits!

ALL VERY IRRATIONAL, I KNOW!

Despite any sort of compliment, words of desire or affection, I could not see what they saw.

My mother was/is very disturbed in this way, but differently than you or I. While she was very critical of herself, she ALWAYS had something to say about everyone else. "She is too fat. He is too ugly. Her nose is an odd shape. His nose is too large. That girls clothes are too tight and her boyfriend's head is disproportionate to his body...you get my drift, I am sure.

I lived an absolutely torturous teenage world, filled with my paranoia's of social inadequacies coupled with having to live up to this very distorted expectation my mother set forth for all of mankind. It did not matter what you looked like, you had major flaws. Did not matter how much you weighed, how flawless you truly were, you were a fat, ugly, useless mess.

Oddly enough, I care not what a person looks like. I do not see the flaws like she did, rather, I see the beauty in even the least attractive sort. I have often been asked what I saw in people over the years and even been told that I am out of the others "league". Which never really made very much sense to me. Isn't it what I find attractive in others that is important? And why the hell are looks so important, anyhow? People make me insane!

So, do I feel this way now? Some days. Depends on which angle or light I see myself in, that particular day, I suppose. I am better able to look at my face and really zone in (or OUT) of my body mostly. I felt alot better about it while pregnant the 2nd time around, but then again, I had an excuse for my body changes didn't I?

It is very much like a compulsion, once there, you become stuck in it. It is torturous, some days, but like anyone else struggling with anything that is anxiety driven...it is all VERY irrational.

Sucks, really.


I do the same thing too, planning my movements so that my tummy bulge shows the least, sitting with my legs slightly elevated so that my thighs look thinner.

Same thing about being prego, too! I LOVED the attention I got while pregnant. I had multiple people tell me I was beautiful or even hot while pregnant. I guess for those 9 months I felt like all my curves finally had an actual purpose and that they were okay. I also vowed to not let myself go during pregnancy, and wore nothing but dressy clothes high heels until my water broke.

The second I had my son, though, it all came back. Only with stretch marks and flabby muscles this time -.-


I felt even better with my second pregnancy then I ever did with my first. All the weight went to better places this time around.

And yes, it all comes back like a rush of cold to the head. Brutal. I think my worst paranoia is only heightened and confirmed by the mere fact that 2 c-sections later I will NEVER look the same :cry: Major abdominal surgery, is not at all flattering. So combine that with all my natural paranoia...voila! disaster!

Wear lots of zip up hoodies and get away with all kinds of free movement :wink:


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29 Nov 2007, 1:35 pm

Hm, don't know how relevant what I'm to say is, but:
I've got Anorexia Nervosa. I do blame this partly on my AS. Because to me it's a coping mechanism to help me handle everything that I can't face in life, and my life is bad because of my AS, hence; AS is the villain. Also, I'm obsessed with weight, calories, food and nutrition. And controlling my food intake is a way of creating structure in my life - something that my family and surrounding lacks. I'm told I have BDD, though I'm not diagnosed. My AS has also always made me an outsider, which has made me very uncertain and self-hating. So naturally, I've been harbouring very negative thoughts about myself.

That's all I can contribute in this matter.