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17 Sep 2004, 9:00 pm

When I was younger I would only talk about the same thing over and over again with people. Not that I know that this is annoying for most I dont do it at all. Today, I cant even hold a long conversation if my life depended on it.



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17 Sep 2004, 10:11 pm

It depends on who im with and where I'm at. I either talk too little (usually people Im not familier with) or too much (family, people Im comfortable around) oh and what the conversation is.



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18 Sep 2004, 4:55 pm

( I don't know how to say this nicely, but) I never shut up! :lol:



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19 Sep 2004, 5:29 am

i never shut up, not even when i'm asleep - i sing and tell stories in my sleep, apparently...

non-stop entertainment, or grounds for justifiable homicide?

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19 Sep 2004, 6:14 am

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non-stop entertainment, or grounds for justifiable homicide?

depends on who's listening... I talk to myself if no one else will listen. one of the most frustrating things about trying to have conversations with NTs is they tend not to let you finish, then you HAVE to start at the beginning again. So it's not our fault :P

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19 Sep 2004, 6:24 am

then the trick is to talk them into stunned submission, and then leg it before they interrupt... (smiley emoticon thing, with perhaps just a hint of a devilish grin).

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21 Sep 2004, 5:08 am

When I'm with my friends and aquaintences, I can talk non-stop about almost anything. Though, I might go on about my Twin, sometimes. (Austin Powers) When someone who looks like someone suspicious from my Past and they join into the conversation, I'll freeze up and look straight ahead, waiting for that person to leave, than I'll start talking again.

I don't talk with my Family very much. I prefer to listen to their stories. If there's something that I'd want to share with them, I'd remember that I've done so many times before. (My desire to go to London) There are also things that I can't really talk to them about like feelings and emotions. The main thing is that despite all that, we all love each other very much, even though we have a funny way of showing it.



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21 Sep 2004, 11:41 am

hilarythebaker wrote:
Are there any folks with Asperger's here who LOVE to talk? I like nothing more than to be with a friend and have a lovely conversation. I am aware that it is usually quite difficult for Asperger's people to be verbal, and that to be a fluent talker is quite a feat. I would talk to people all day long if they let me. In fact, Mother sometimes calls me "Constant Comment."

My biggest problems with talking is that I interrupt on occassion (usually when I'm with my family) and as I am a bit hard of hearing (10%-15% loss), I have a hard time modulating my voice. It irritates my father especially, and he's forever saying, "lower your voice, the other people can hear you," and this can get to be very embarassing. It really annoys my brother when we're with Daddy and I get loud and Daddy keeps saying, "lower your voice."








I remember seeing a neurologist in Dallas, Texas and she told me I was one of the most verbal people with Asperger's that she ever saw. She was thrilled that I actually enjoyed talking!

Also when people tell me to lower my voice, I often literally start over with what I was trying to say. "You don't have to repeat it, just lower your voice and continue," is something I frequently hear from my parents.

So are there any Aspies here who are chatterboxes?
I too find myself talkative at times, but only when given opportunity, and only with those I know real well, those I don't know, I do not say anything, cause I usually don't know them, and don't know what to talk about to new ones, or ones I'm just getting to know. People just assume I am either shy or don't want to talk to them=unfriendly. I often do find myself interrupting ongoing conversations when I'm with a group of people mostly from my church, and I don't know when they've finished talking. I do at times get told by others including my own family members that I talk too loudly, and to keep my voice down when in public places like restaurants.

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18 Aug 2005, 6:32 pm

Sure thang I like to talk!

Most people think I'm shy; but, once I get to know them, I might just talk their heads off!



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18 Aug 2005, 10:06 pm

Yeah people say I talk alot generally and usually continuous in comments and even worse when I'm nervous because then I laugh.



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19 Aug 2005, 12:37 am

alex wrote:
I talk nonstop.


:lol:


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I'm very reluctant to speak, so I very rarely initiate conversation. I'm usually more comfortable if the other person leads the conversation, and talks more. If they start a subject, I will do the "quizzing" thing- asking them as many different questions about it as I can, just to keep them talking, so I don't have to! If they don't choose a subject, then it's more likely the conversation will die quickly.


That describes me to a tee.



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19 Aug 2005, 8:47 am

I'm talkative with people I know, or subjects that interest me. I find small talk difficult and am usually the quiet one in a gathering of people I don't know, but once I get going on something interesting it's difficult to get me to shut up.

I thought I'd got the interrupting thing under control, but according to a friend I do it constantly :oops: I talk through television programs, music, and other people's conversations. If there's something I want to say I can't stop myself, it will come out.

I used to get into trouble at school - looking back at my school reports I notice that for subjects I liked, the teachers commented that I was a chatterbox, always talking and interrupting the class, and for subjects I wasn't interested in the comments read that I was 'in my own world', daydreaming, or staring out of the window or at the ceiling (I have a thing about textured ceiling plaster) instead of concentrating.



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19 Aug 2005, 8:51 am

I'm not talkative enough, and that's my whole problem. I'm too scared to talk to a lot of people. And whenever I did, I used to make a complete arse of myself, although I've now learnt to think before I speak, so that's rarely the case any more.


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19 Aug 2005, 8:55 am

thatrsdude wrote:
although I've now learnt to think before I speak, so that's rarely the case any more.


How did you do that? I ask because my Executive Function is not great - thinking before you speak is to do with organisation and planning - and I can't really do that well.



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19 Aug 2005, 8:59 am

I'm still not perfect at it. But you should try and look at things from the other persons point of view. How would you feel if the same thing was told to you? It's hard but you get quicker at doing it as you get used to it.


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19 Aug 2005, 9:53 am

My brother and I are both self-diagnosed, and my mother has almost killed him when we're on a car trip because he never stops talking. I'm either way to talkative for people to comprehend (I talk really fast, too), or I won't say a single word, but that's only when I'm depressed or nervous usually.


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