Aspergers Syndrome, Relationships and Love

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We can fall in love, just like we can make friends.

I just added the article to start a discussion on the subject, I agree that NZ is about 5 years behind UK but way ahead of a lot of the world...

Person in article may have it totally wrong who knows, I do not know the person but found the article interesting also agree figures could be way out, but it does say long term relationships and how many of us are or have been truly happy in long term relationships!

Will start a poll on this one...

Personally until I recently was diagnosed myself was never really happy in my relationships, something was always missing - beginning to understand now diagnosed, but how many people still out there still wondering!

For those of you who have found long term happiness that is great, but I,m sure there are lots more of us who have not, any advice

The only thing that amazes me is the fact that my husband was able to figure out it was something in my brain and work around it without getting excited or thinking he'd suddenly wake up and I'd change. He did that long before anyone knew about AS and when people barely knew anything about Kanner's Autism. He had no testing, no words, just his intellect and he figured it out. Which tells me not only that he's pretty extraordinary, but also that these supposed "experts" on the subject are extremely pathetic. I see exactly what they've accomplished on this site every day and I am very glad I was born early enough to avoid all of the "help." I'm a lot happier as a result.

This seems to fill in a few gaps about NT behaviour. Normal folks get a natural chemical high off various social interactions. May this also explain why I experienced depressive lows and panic attacks while falling in love (seratonin levels knocked out)?

It's bits of information like this that add to revelation of what is NT and how it is so different to AS.

When I go to a social event of some sort and quite obviously don't get as much out of it as NT, next day I go on a downer. Is this because my expectations were too high or because of brain chemicals being mucked about or both?

I think that it does take a very special NT person to be married to an AS person. My husband should prolly be put up for saint status. He pays all the bills because for some reason I can't seem to do it. My idea of paying bills is when the red disconnect notice gets put on the door.

He puts up with my screaming melt downs. He puts up with my stimming and pacing. He puts up with my weirdities. All the way saying that he doesn't make accommodations for me, he just does things my way to make it easier for him to live with me.