Ever been called "spoiled" b/c of sensory issues?

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Yeah, I do think we have it a lot harder, because we're the ones who WILL question it. I had trouble not saying anything if someone made it a big deal to not do something... I am HUGE on following rules so it drives me batty when someone else doesn't.

I still don't understand it one bit-if I make a rule in my house, I wanna know when someone breaks it. Not so I can just yell at them and they can get each other in trouble or anything. My kiddos tell me so I can explain it/remind them WHY they aren't supposed to do something. "Because I said so" is a very uncommon phrase in our house, as well as being punished for questioning a rule is extremely uncommon, lol.

I still don't understand other parents. I have a lot of trouble punishing anyone else's kids, because I don't know what the rules in their own homes are and all... and I don't tell other parents what they did unless it is something really bad, because I don't know if they even care to know or not, lol.

If I had someone who would listen and answer my questions honestly, I would pick their brains for DAYS just to figure out why they do what they do. Everything just seems to depend on their mood or something.

I've seen parents make rules to not jump on the bed or something like that, then encourage or just flat out ignore it later when it happens. It's like, they want to have the control, but don't want to actually have to ENFORCE anything... they just want it to happen automatically, and if it doesn't then it isn't worth the effort to straighten it out or something...

I get told to "lighten up" because I don't like the taste of alcohol. It repulses me, it's like chugging meths. I've never been called spoiled because of the food and sensory stuff, but i've been called ungrateful.

I've also been called a "rude selfish little girl" by one of my teachers due to my aspieness. Stupid b***h. I'll get her if it's the last thing I do.

Yup that's the one that get's me. Granted I can be picky about food and such, but it's the disliking having a job and my episodes in social situations that cause people (even my husband for a while) to think that I was raised wrong and just a spoiled lazy brat. Even I thought so and began this cycle of hating myself and not understanding why I couldn't just get over it.

Also when I lived in Mexico with a family, I'm sure they thought the same things. Not only that, the food is so different there (it's not taco bell or anything like you get in the USA) that I had a lot of troubles with proper nutrition. I'm sure that the mom thought I hated her cooking and took it personally. But there were certain foods I was just like....ugh. I got sick a lot as well, probably from the malnutrition and I gained weight from that and a lack of exercise (110F/45C daily anyone? With no airconditioning!). Even I looked back onto my teen years and thought I was kind of mean to that family. I never thought "Asperger's".

They say the truth sets you free. Discovering that I likely have AS has really opened my eyes and started to set me free from this prison of thinking I'm a lazy spoiled selfish little brat. I don't view it as an excuse for bad behavior though.

I've had a lot of crap for being a fussy eater, and people are still mean to me about it sometimes. I'm only just now realising that a lot of NTs can munch away on food that they don't like much without too much of a problem, whereas if I say that I don't like something, I mean that I actually *can't* eat it. I couldn't physically force myself to swallow. I'm not doing this just to be difficult.

That is exactly what happens to me, too. People make fun of me because I don't like eating the food that they eat.

I used to have a lot more taste issues when I was younger. I used to hate mashed and baked potatoes, but in recent years I have begun to like them, not sure what changed.

The one thing I refuse to eat is seafood of any sort. Its a combination of the texture and the fishyness. It makes me gag and almost throw up if I taste it. When I tell people that I don't eat seafood, they always assume that I'm a picky eater and then they run off a list off other foods to see what else I won't eat. Drives me crazy because compared to some NTs I know, I'm not picky at all, just the seafood thing.

Yes, definitely. This is a very topical subject for me, being just recently accused of it. I really don't know how I should respond as I'm the only child and was indeed somewhat spoiled. However, I usually don't do it because I feel that I'm somehow better or deserve something, I just do it because I, for example, can't stand certain loud voices or dislike(/hate) certain foods.

Last edited by Keoren on 15 Feb 2008, 3:45 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I've always wondered why anyone cares what anyone else eats or bothers to comment on it (with the exception of parents trying to get their kids to eat healthily). How are adults affected by what other adults eat?

I also didn't realize most people could tolerate eating foods they don't like until recently. I thought it was overwhelmingly uncomfortable to everyone. If only there was a way to explain this sensitivity without disclosing that I'm an aspie . . . .

Never happened, but I have managed to overcome 99% of my sensory issues.

I still can't handle some loud noises, and that's why I don't go to evangelical Christian churches, because the pastors often yell.

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 16 Feb 2008, 10:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I know, I hate people commenting on what I eat. The amount of glares from people I get in restaurants when my food comes (I usually can only stand the kids menu as the food in it is plain) really annoys me. My mum always fusses over what I eat, she thinks I eat too little.