15 Feb 2008, 5:32 am
Brittany2907 wrote:
Today I was at a social group for those with AS and because I was new there, I was getting asked quite a few questions about myself. I told them that I was vegan and I answered questions fine about that. It was when people started to ask me questions such as..."What do you like to do in your spare time?"..."What are your hobbies/interests?" etc...anything personal, I kind of forgot who I was and didn't know what to say! Most that came out was..."err...umm...aah...ooh" etc.
It was almost like I knew what I wanted to say, but I couldn't get the words to actually come out of my mouth! If I tried to force the words out, I ended up stuttering and starting sentences over and over again before having the lady who was taking the group make a distraction and take the attention away from me answering the question...[thank goodness!]. I thought that it might have been anxiety that caused this...but I didn't have the physical shakiness, disorientation and ill feeling associated with my usual anxiety.
It doesn't only happen when out...but also at home. My mother asked me today..."Why don't you want to move away from home?". My answer was something like..."umm...err...well because I-I-....just go,".
I was just wondering if anyone else has this problem?...knows why it occurs?
As I would sure like to find out and stop it from happening!
thanks.
It was almost like I knew what I wanted to say, but I couldn't get the words to actually come out of my mouth! If I tried to force the words out, I ended up stuttering and starting sentences over and over again before having the lady who was taking the group make a distraction and take the attention away from me answering the question...[thank goodness!]. I thought that it might have been anxiety that caused this...but I didn't have the physical shakiness, disorientation and ill feeling associated with my usual anxiety.
It doesn't only happen when out...but also at home. My mother asked me today..."Why don't you want to move away from home?". My answer was something like..."umm...err...well because I-I-....just go,".
I was just wondering if anyone else has this problem?...knows why it occurs?
As I would sure like to find out and stop it from happening!thanks.
LOL! It sounds almost as if you had ASPERGER'S SYNDROME!! !
15 Feb 2008, 7:44 am
15 Feb 2008, 10:06 am
wolphin wrote:
yeah, I find introspection hard. Especially in school when we had to talk or write about our "favorite" whatever (movie, book, etc) and I could never find it easy to do those (the teachers always assume those are "easy" questions too, since they're about something you like)
I never really thought up "canned" answers, mostly because I didn't understand why I needed them, though I did end up coming up with a couple of favorite things that people ask for a lot. For the most part writing my Facebook profile was good because I could take a lot of time thinking about what I like and filling in the boxes, which cover most things people ask about.
Even when I know the answers, putting it in words is hard too. this isn't limited to "favorite" things too. Unless I have time to think over what I'm going to say I have to slow down in order to say anything intelligent at all
I never really thought up "canned" answers, mostly because I didn't understand why I needed them, though I did end up coming up with a couple of favorite things that people ask for a lot. For the most part writing my Facebook profile was good because I could take a lot of time thinking about what I like and filling in the boxes, which cover most things people ask about.
Even when I know the answers, putting it in words is hard too. this isn't limited to "favorite" things too. Unless I have time to think over what I'm going to say I have to slow down in order to say anything intelligent at all
I hate those "favorite" whatever questions. I find it impossible to individually rate all the books I have read and come up with the best one. So I usually end up coming up with the latest book I read that I liked and saying something like "X book was pretty good." I think it works fairly well even if it is completely avoiding the question that was actually asked. I don't think that the person was really after your favorite book, but more interested in general type of books that you like. I still don't like doing it because it makes me feel like I am lying and deceiving them.
I don't do real good with "canned" answers. I have some, but if the question was worded in an unusual way or needs slight alteration to fit the circumstances I have trouble. It is like someone has pulled off all the labels and I stare at a shelf of metal cans not knowing which was the can of peaches and which was the can of beans.
If I have like 5 minutes to formulate an answer I can come up with excellent answers, but in a face to face conversation you just don't have that sort of time. Thus I usually come up with great comments and questions after the person has left.
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