Sense of social hierarchy

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I learn over time about such things. In any situation there is a "Queen Bee" or

"Alpha Male." There is also a "Social Code" in these situations, and takes a while to learn.

I hate hierachy it sucks.

My first real introduction to the concept of social hierarchy came with the world of dating and then working at a corporation. Most women care, at least to some degree, about social standing; in other words, they probably wouldn't like a bum or a loner (even if they otherwise profess egalitarianism). Most women like to see at least some ambiton: that you're not content to live in your mom's basement eating microwave dinners while watching daytime TV.

At work you're expected to show at least minimal deference towards and interest in people you would be utterly insignificant to you outside work. For example, some random soccer mom happens to be your boss's boss's boss. You may not find the details of her life genuinely interesting, but you're expected to pretend to care—at least a little. My boss's value system and outlook are completely foreign to me; he's enamored by mere appearances and considers them to be of fundamental importance. So long as you're working there and he's determining your salary, it's most expedient to play the sycophant and feign support and use his superficiality to your advantage. In other words, you've got to manage your manager.

I've always been like that, some took it well, others didn't. Always taught me a lot about people and which ones could be trusted.

I have a lot of fear toward people on hierarchies, such as bosses, because they can act a little or quite unpredictible. But, I dont have the desire to advance in hierarchies and I dont care in high social status

Found this old thread. Love it.