I hate being critcised

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if it's constructive, patient, and non-repetitive, that's fine. You can tell me I suck, but ya gotta tell me why...

emotionally invasive, or guilt-creating, attacks...those I think everyone has a problem with.

I don't always get hurt by it (depends on who and how), but I do get annoyed and very defensive if I feel like they are wrong which is pretty often. This leads me to explain why I think they are wrong. For example, if my boss tells me to do something differently because they know a better way to do things, I'm fine if they phrase it like a suggestion and let me explain my reason for preferring to do it my way. I always look at different possibilities, and even if I pick a way that doesn't appear to be the most effecient to an outside observer, there's usually a reason that's not immediately obvious for doing it differently. Now when they phrase it like an order, and tell me not to argue with them when I try to tell them why my way is better for me, that's when I start to get really argumentative. Sometimes I even start to act a little childish. Last time I did this my boss tells me "I don't like you arguing with me!!" So I respond, "I don't like you arguing with me! !"

I hate criticism, but it's part of my job to receive it regularly. As a female, I've found it's easier to take criticism from males rather than females.
It's a social thing I know, I just haven't pin-pointed it yet.

I hate being criticised.

I enjoy being criticized whether constructive or not.

It doesn't bother me.

Point out my errors, my flaws, truthful or otherwise; it doesn't bother me at all.

I do too. It rocks me to the core. It's one of the main reasons I hate to mix with people. I must have a really weak ego I just can't take any criticism.

I don't take criticism, very well. Especially when people insult my character or intelligence. I could handle constructive criticism, if I was working on a job site. I just can't handle it, when people point out, what they consider to be my flaws and expect me to be more like the majority. In fact, it was last year, around this time, that I was making snide remarks, about "Normal, Mainstream NT People", on these forums. That was last year, though. I tend to end up hating, what people tell me that I should be like. That probably explains why I am, the way that I am, at this point in time. I have no problem with being a Gritter. It's a lot better than being a weakling. I think that I've done the best thing that I could do for myself, over the past 12 months. The teens and preteens on the sidewalks don't call me derogatory names, anymore. They just stand back, and let me walk by. I plan on being a Punker, for as long as I can. I know a man who owns a record store, who was a hippie, for over 40 years. If society doesn't like it, they can put it, where the sun don't shine.

I wonder if I should put off looking for a job, for now?

That's the biggest thing I struggle with in my job. I've almost quit 5 times from having people say nasty things or talk down on me like I was stupid. I try to be alright with constructive criticism but out of no where I seem to have a small outburst . What upsets me is there's a lot of that in work places and I'm already struggling financially. It's hard for me to be assertive but I've had some lucky moments. That's the biggest thing I have trouble sleeping over. The anxiety of going to work and wondering what else they'll pull on me. I literally get sick to my stomach just thinking about it.

criticism = murderous rage

I don't like it either.

I can't handle it. One criticism and I start to literally feel like if I sdon't buck up or grow up or something, I'm going to be murdered.