Why Aspies have loud voices

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When I do, I usually speak softly; I sometimes speak too loudly when I'm excited and the overall context of the situation is "quiet" (I'm really not talking too loudly, it's just that how loud I'm talking isn't expected for the situation), and I'm comfortable with the person I'm talking to.

My volume control is unmarked, or, I have no idea how to modulate my voice to the situation.

Same here.

I tend 2 have a deep voice.

I'm either way too loud or way too quiet. I just honestly can't tell the difference, even when it gets pointed out to me (as it does frequently). I can control it, no problem, and if I'm told I'm shouting I'll quiet down, I just don't know how loud is too loud. I often speak too softly now because I get told I'm shouting so often that I'm scared of being too noisy, but it has the opposite effect. I never seem to hit that middle mark, haha.

wouldn't loud voices almost be OVER stimulation?

Some of us are talking over a background noise that NTs just don't hear.

Since they don't hear the background noise, they wonder why we're talking so loud.

Some of us just don't have a very good concept of volume.

Some of us can get VERY enthused about the wonderful things that we are saying and our enthusiasm leads to increased volume.

Some of us are just stressed.

I actually had to consciously make myself speak more loudly because people could never hear me. It's hard to get the volume just right, though.

People with AS have involuntary voice modulation problems. We do not have the wiring to tell us what is the appropriate level of voice to use in a given social situation. So we just pick one, it is many times the wrong one, too loud, or too soft for the situation we are in.

When I was younger, I was super quiet and "shy", but as I got older, and forced myself to become more social. I would frequently find myself in group environments (think school cafeteria, big holiday family dinners, etc.) and someone would lean over and say, "You're shouting!" I would have no clue! Then I'd lower my voice, and someone would say, "We can't hear you." Basically, I have no idea whether or not others can hear me, the majority of the time. This is true on the phone also. Must be a perception thing, hey?

I do feel very aware of what I'm saying though...I "listen" to myself talk, almost as I am watching the words appear on the screen, to be sure they're correct. Maybe that's what sidetracks me--the "proofreading".

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Exactly.

(Everything in moderation is just a theory!

Not all of us. My first post in this thread explains why I did it. It only seemed involuntary because I didn't know how to explain it so I just said "I don't know why I do it" and I was so used to it (just like I was so used to blinking) that I didn't realize when I was doing it anymore. The truth is, it was necessary for getting stimulation and not getting depressed.


I'm no ignorant spaz.

QFT.

I'm very quiet, almost always. The very few times that I'm loud (ie, "normal"), it's because I'm giving some sort of presentation and realize that I need to speak up so people can hear me. I don't like being loud at all.

Stimulation has nothing to do with it for me.

In public I'm very soft spoken, but at home my parents sometimes tell me to be quiet or not talk so loud.

I like this response. You have summed up how I feel and why I also speak loudly, but have no idea that I am.

I was just thinking that lately I haven't been told (as often) that I'm too loud, but my daughters tell me at times still, and I just realized the person I talk to the most is my husband who has lost the hearing in one ear! He thinks my volume is just right.
When we're out in public though I notice that I think I'm talking really normal or even a little softly to him but others will turn around and look, so they must be hearing me and that means I'm still too loud at times.