Do people treat you differently when they learn you have AS?

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I don't want good samaratins as friends. I want a wife and friends that look after themselves first. It is a different personality.

I am ULTRA sectretive about my AS so I just don't tell anyone.

However, I have been thinking about getting a job working with my fiance's father. Having just found out about my AS from my fiance, her father must have told another guy her father works with. He's a nice guy. Before he knew I had AS he treated me like one of the guys, which was cool. But now I have noticed there is a shift in the way he treats me. Now he has this gentle "Awww, it's going to be alright" pat-on-the-back attitude around me. Which is nice that his approach to me is so forgiving but I liked it when I was just thought as one of the boys.

I would hate to see how everyone would react if I told them about AS. No one other than my brothers and my fiance & her family know. None of my friends know. No one in the chat rooms I go to know. No one on any other boards I go to know.

I actually enjoy the anonymity.

However, there is a part of me that would really love it if I could just tell everyone about AS. I wish I could advertise it everyhere I went. But that means people might start asking me about it. Which means I would have to tell them. And that's where I would lose them...

so, by "good Samaritans" you are saying if they knew about your AS, they would just patronize you? Not take you seriously? Or are you saying they would consider you unable to take care of yourself, treat you as someone that needed caretaking?

Merle

I sometimes tell people I have AS when they keep asking me why I am so odd, so cold, have no friends, hardly look at eyes, etc. They may treat me as 'ret*d' after, but at least they stop doing boring questions to me. A few people actually start accepting me better after knowing I've it, though this is rare.

I told two friends of mine I had aspergers they did make a couple of jokes as teenage guys will do, but they accepted it, forgot it, and moved on, in that order, if I told them again they probably wouldn't remeber I told them in the first place.

Yes. When my classmates found out i had autism, they started treating me with respect.