Wen u tell NT of ur AS do they say "U must have it mild

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people just put me down as quirky. :D

I don't tell people. There's really no point because it's not very known. I have had family members say that they can't even tell that I have it...just not my immediate family members.

I don't tell people, but I don't try to hide it. :D

yeah but when your own dad says you have it mildly even though he's barely had any experience of AS makes you wonder how he'll support you?

I don't think its just about reading books on it what else can he do? He's not very understanding keeps pushing me to do more hours of work and not to work part time. When I cant i'm not ready

most people try to play down AS I think. NTs I mean. They don't like the thought that their son/daughter/brother/sister/friend might not be "normal" as they define it. :S

Asperger is less up the Autistic spectrum but it isn't a mild version of someone with autism.

I do agree that no two Aspies are alike though :D

"AS makes you appear normal enough that people just assume you're being beligerent, anti-authority or just plain disagreeable and not listening. Sigh."

You are so right. Maybe this is why my son thinks his main problem is "I have trouble with listening." He is the best gauge of all. He is an eight-year old, seemingly normal, very exroverted socially but misses the cues and is out fo context or just plain messes up to fit in.

He wants your knowledge rather than your friendship--he doesn't know this though. Everyone is his "friend" as far as he's concerned. My friend this, my friend that--but he couldn't tell me the child's name. He connects temporarily and then moves along to the next thought.

Yes, it is a communication disorder, a perception disorder, a unique wiring--how each child reactes to this particular innate brain is unique according to the child's personality, upbringing--genes.

He'll have a melt down too and not worry about what his "friends" think of him. Unfortunately, 8 and 9 year olds, mostly, are beyond the tantrum stage. They go with the flow so as not to make waves, embarrass themselves. Peer pressure is of utmost importance. Peer pressure has never affected my son when he's denied his special interest or is overstimulated. Mild? I'd say not. It is too complex to be considered mild.


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people think it's an attention thing for me :S but I HATE attention :S

People say that to me, too, although in fairness I haven't even been diagnosed yet (going through the process now) and even my doctor has said that if I do have AS, it is on the mild end, so many they are right. I think it does come from good intentions when people say that, but I'm not sure there is a such thing as "mild" AS. I mean sure, there can be milder cases than others, but I think any time someone's brain is wired differently, it's pretty "serious."

People say that it must be mild because I have friends and because I don't by any means come across as a total freak in most social situations. However, little do they know that my life is plagued by extreme anxiety due to my overly analytical mind and that I have had dozens of friendships over the years end awkwardly and abruptly or awkwardly fade away. I am not the kind of aspie who can't make friends, I am the kind who can't keep them, which is almost just as hard sometimes, even though it is much less obvious.

There is only one person my age who knows that I have AS, and he's an Aspie too, so I've never had the luxury of being told that it's mild. However, I don't have much of a problem with non-literal language and eye contact, and I don't natter on about my special interests or have obsessive rituals. The main thing that really lets me down is my total and utter social ineptness, and mild it ain't.

I agree. Some things are far from mild.

No, no one that I tell ever know what it is. Others, since being at college, are in similar areas for their degree so they know, but never someone saying I got it mild. They might say that to you since you must talk with them quite a bit.

My parents say mine is mild, my boyfriend says the same. I don't know of anyone else who have said it. I think my old shrink has too and my school counselor. I used to ask him all the time what would I be like if mine was very bad and he say things like "You probably wouldn't be in choir?" and I asked him why and he said "Because you wouldn't understand what was going on in it" he also said I wouldn't talk much and my mother said they all do talk. My mother told me if I had more AS, I wouldn't be hurting peoples feelings and not caring and I be saying things like "So what" after being told what I said was hurtful etc. I also wouldn't give a s**t about other people or care about their stuff my mom said. The way she described AS, she makes it sound like people with severe AS or moderate are bad people because they are a**holes and bullies. That's probably why she says I have very little because I am caring and I don't like to upset people when it's not my intention too, I also respect other people and want to be caring.

Only people I don't care about is a**holes. If I hurt their feelings on accident or offend them, so what. They deserved it.

I get told this often these days.

When there is no other intend behind this statement, I note it down as a compliment.

I try to explain more about the whole spectrum though.

I would want people who say things like this be as respectful and tolerant of other autistic people too. That the people know that just because someone has autism, they can be 'wow, cool!' too.

However, if somebody says I must be 'mild AS, just a little, if at all' because they claim I just don't want to do something and am completely able and can do it like all the other kids, then I get mad.

I don't know what to say then though. I always think it's none of their business.

Usually, people will hear 'disability' or 'autism' and then say 'your parents just messed up and you're just BAD BEHAVED!'

Gosh, this is so stupid...

I try to take it as a compliment too, although I'm not quite sure what it means when they say that.

I've been told that I have "mild" AS more than a few times. I think people mostly mean this as a compliment, but it seems to be a double-edged sword, really. They think that it's good to be "mild" because this way I appear "almost normal," but I think these people also mean it as this: whenever I appear "abnormal," it's within my control, and my "abnormalities" are my own fault.... as in, I should know better because my AS is mild.

Ironically, the people who have claimed that I'm mild have never had more than fleeting contact with others who have AS. They get their info from watching TV shows or listening to Autism Speaks, or other such nonsense. My parents initially doubted that I have AS because I'm a girl. And they thought girls didn't "get" autism. (But now they've gotten to the point where they think my mom is also on spectrum somewhere.) There's so much misinformation spreading about...

I don't know that there IS mild Asperger's. Of course, I usually explain Asperger's as being mild autism, but I mostly do that for people who know nothing about the spectrum.