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02 May 2008, 4:45 pm

This sort of thing drives me crazy, because I try to be such a rational person. I'm fully aware that I'm being irrational, yet I can't seem to change the thought pattern. I'm particularly prone to irrational anger over certain petty things, and I can't seen to control it. I hate it when other people are irrational with me, so I try to get away from people when I'm feeling that way so they won't be affected. My family is starting to understand this about me, but people I work with and such are a different story.



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02 May 2008, 5:14 pm

Dox47 wrote:
This sort of thing drives me crazy, because I try to be such a rational person. I'm fully aware that I'm being irrational, yet I can't seem to change the thought pattern. I'm particularly prone to irrational anger over certain petty things, and I can't seen to control it. I hate it when other people are irrational with me, so I try to get away from people when I'm feeling that way so they won't be affected. My family is starting to understand this about me, but people I work with and such are a different story.


I can relate to this, im the exact same way. Its annoying to notice that one is behaving irrationally when you cant really change it :?



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02 May 2008, 10:26 pm

Yeah this bugs me too - especially when I've been being so vocally puzzled about the strange behaviour of those around me and how 'people just doesn't make sense', then I have to insist that someone stop using a particular phrase, or that I can't go inside that building... but I negotiate sometimes, I say I'll forgive people for being offended when I was only being honest, if they'll only please let me away with my quirks.

On a picky note, 'it makes me nervous/melt down/crazy' is a good reason, even if we're not good at saying what it is about "it" that's so bad. It can be likened to fingernails on a blackboard, which I find unoffensive, but drives lots of people crazy.


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03 May 2008, 3:35 pm

I have a lot of these things happen to me. Some of it probably OCD behaviour.

One time, I went a little nuts at my brother about why did he have to spread the butter on his toast so loudly, because the sound was making my head feel crazy. he looked at me and said, "my god, you are bloody weird, spreading butter on toast always sounds like this, and it isn't loud anyway."
i suddenly realized that just because it sounded loud and hurt my head, didn't mean that it sounded loud and hurt other people's heads too.



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03 May 2008, 4:40 pm

Little-Bird, that's a very important revelation! I'm glad for you. Achieveing socio-emotional reciprocity, I think, is a crucial development in human consciousness. Without having passed that milsetone, a person isn't fully sentient. It's like having a childlike mind for one's entire life.



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03 May 2008, 5:36 pm

slowmutant wrote:
Little-Bird, that's a very important revelation! I'm glad for you. Achieveing socio-emotional reciprocity, I think, is a crucial development in human consciousness. Without having passed that milsetone, a person isn't fully sentient. It's like having a childlike mind for one's entire life.


yeah, it is an important revelation. not quite sure what you mean by 'socio-emotional reciprocity' though. (being empathetic and able to respond?). i thought that my realisation had more to do with becoming aware of what people call this 'theory of mind'.

it would've been nice if my brother had acknowledged that just cause it wasn't hurting his head didn't mean it wasn't hurting mine. :wink:



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03 May 2008, 7:47 pm

Im like the guy from The Stranger. BRB going to shoot an arab.



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03 May 2008, 8:28 pm

SabbraCadabra wrote:
My food can't touch, except in rare cases (for example, meat and potatoes that both have gravy on them are allowed). I'm slowly getting better at it...the other day my GF's step-dad served us Swiss steak, potatoes, and corn...the meat and potatoes was fine, but I had to force myself to eat the gravy soaked corn (and there weren't any clean spots on the plate to try to seperate them) =/

A pretty huge step forward for me, I think, but I'd still prefer to just not have them touch. I don't know how everyone else can just pile everything together and eat it. The "it all goes to the same place" excuse doesn't do anything for me.


I don't like my food touching either. If it's all part of the same dish, I'm fine, but not if it should be separate.