04 May 2008, 9:55 pm
Felinity wrote:
I was given the diagnosis NLD with ADHD. My main issues are social.. I have trouble understanding people, especially nonverbal communication and subtle social cues.. I also have a real difficult time remembering names for some reason and that adds to the difficulties socially.
My mind tends to focus on numerous things at once (ADHD) or just be spacey . Therefore, I sometimes find it difficult to keep focused specifically on what I'm talking about and will go off on tangents, often forgetting what I was originally wanting to say... So, with the NLD issues of not being able to understand alot of human interaction, my ADHD issues of focusing and staying on track, and the forgetting of people's names --- I'm pretty much ruined socially most of the time... I feel lonely so often and wish people would invite me to parties and call, etc.. but they almost never do...
I get left and right mixed up sometimes, and it is difficult to reverse directions when heading home for instance.. If I have written down the instructions how to get somewhere, it is difficult to reverse them and head back home.. I lose things alot.. clutter and disorganization.. It's a miracle sometimes for me to find something that is clean to wear, that isn't all wrinkled AND actually has all it's buttons for instance.. with no rips, tears or stains.. There is always a missing shoe or I can't find my keys, etc... So, by the time I do find myself somewhere, I might be a bit late, frazzled and then you add that to the social anxiety brought about by not being able to understand over 50% of human communications.. well--- I probably should just give up on trying to socialize... honestly.... i just wish i had more friends
My mind tends to focus on numerous things at once (ADHD) or just be spacey . Therefore, I sometimes find it difficult to keep focused specifically on what I'm talking about and will go off on tangents, often forgetting what I was originally wanting to say... So, with the NLD issues of not being able to understand alot of human interaction, my ADHD issues of focusing and staying on track, and the forgetting of people's names --- I'm pretty much ruined socially most of the time... I feel lonely so often and wish people would invite me to parties and call, etc.. but they almost never do...
I get left and right mixed up sometimes, and it is difficult to reverse directions when heading home for instance.. If I have written down the instructions how to get somewhere, it is difficult to reverse them and head back home.. I lose things alot.. clutter and disorganization.. It's a miracle sometimes for me to find something that is clean to wear, that isn't all wrinkled AND actually has all it's buttons for instance.. with no rips, tears or stains.. There is always a missing shoe or I can't find my keys, etc... So, by the time I do find myself somewhere, I might be a bit late, frazzled and then you add that to the social anxiety brought about by not being able to understand over 50% of human communications.. well--- I probably should just give up on trying to socialize... honestly.... i just wish i had more friends
I have NLD and ADHD too
. I have worn stained shirt 
. With ritalin I do tend to focus on one specific interest, but occasionally swithc between them. I have made a couple of eccentric friends and I am happy. I can be you friend 
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04 May 2008, 11:53 pm
