Do you HAVE TO have your own space?

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Yes - I had to share a room with my cousin for 3 weeks once when she came to stay & I hated it.

I also had to share during a block release course, but my roommate requested a transfer (because I was too messy apparently, but it was probably because she didn't feel comfortable sharing with me) so I ended up having a room to myself - without even having to do anything!

I still hate sharing a room - it's just too uncomfortable for me.

In september i'm going on a gap year, i have declare my AS but i'm still wondering about getting my own room. the 1st 3 months are at a posh youth hostel and as i understand it 2 people to a room and 2 desks on either side of the walls. But I know i will suffer without my own room, but i will stand out as the only person with my own room, people will want to know why and my AS wont be a secret. I really dont want to stand out but i'm scared i wont survive.

the next 6 months are in an apartment so getting my own room is easy to discreetly do.

I've been away with on a trip with other people for a month like this and at one point i went so insane and meltdownish that i made my self ill. The wanted us to sleep in the desert, my idea of hell! So i said i was ill and went to stay with the other ill people who cudnt go and slept in the kitchen, it was bliss to get my own sleeping space, i recharged.

yes, completly.
i loathe being near other people,a nd had hysterics on family holidays when i had to share a room with my mother or sister. proper hysterics!! ! at 14 years ol? not good behaviour....

now i live alone, but i found even living in a shared house pretty hard going, and rarely left my room, even though i really liked some of the people i lived with at one point.

i fel really depressed about the future- i am so lonely and would love to marry and have children, but cannot forsee how i could possibly share a BED!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! ! with someone- would i kill them??? i also worry baout that, but think it far more liekly id kill myself...

in the past i have become really depressed with boyfriends at closeness of it all, and became withdrawn and switched off- i retreated into my head. helena bonham carter and tim burton are married and live next door- i could possibly manage that. but- i cant afford two houses!

people and noise are the two most crippling things in my life; its like being in a glass tower..
my dream is to live in

One up:
Three words:
DANCE DANCE REVOLUTION.

Living below a DDR fan is a nightmare of epic proportions. I coped better with the train-tracks running right past that flat on Camden Road and the shaking of the entire building better than I did the guy upstairs. >_<;


O'course now.... I still have someone who stomps about upstairs, and I share a studio flat with someone who I used to like plenty until she became a liability.
I sorta wish I could have my own space, but I can't kick her out presently.... so I don't have any.
I do not have any privacy.


But then being forced outside my comfort zone is the story of my life.... I don't much care any more.

apolgies for posting huge pic- it was small origionall, honest!! !

Nice-looking place that...
I'd rather a place with more trees though, personally.

Yeah, I've heard that it's the norm for college students in the US to share a room. Not so here in the UK (a few students do, but that's usually a choice they make in order to pay less in rent), which is just as well because I think if I'd had to share a bedroom I wouldn't have gone to university in the first place. I can't think of anything worse. I really worried about having to share a room with a girlfriend but it's okay these days. I also have a small study which is my haven and my gf will give me space when I need it.

it was so big i didnt see the tower at first, and thought you meant you wanted to live in a swamp!

I would like a place of my own (at least until I get married), without having to live with family or a roommate.

My own space is very sacred to me. My room is where I go when I need space. I think my family respects that because they stay out of it, most of the time. But when one comes in, the rest follow.

I love having my own space. My partner and I have lived together for the last 8 years and we have both our own bedrooms. Other people think we're weird for it (ok, we ARE weird but thats beside the point) but for us it works great. Not only because we're both aspies but also because we both get a good night sleep and are therefore only half as grouchy in the mornings as if we would be if we would have to contort in our sleep in order to not fall out of bed or freeze to death because the other one has hogged the blanket. When people ask I just explain that all throughout your childhood you fight to have your own space and a place where you can shut the door and keep people out and then as soon as you couple up you throw that hard earned sanctury away? Sounds daft to me. Other than that we both have our own computers and sofas and we can be quite happily together alone, i.e. both surf away tucked into our own little world all night without having to talk too much.
In the past i used to live in a shared flat and the arrangements there were great as well. If you wanted company you would go into the kitchen. If you didn't care either way you left your door open - if you wanted no contact the door was shut and that was respected. Work is a different issue though - at the moment I work in an open plan office and theres nowhere to go to get away from people if I need to.

Yes. A place where I Can be alone after dealing with s**t in meatspace. Just away from those people who I am in that situation with..

I can live with a roomate for maybe 2 nights. Then I start going crazy.

I like having my own place. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want to. I can walk out of my apartment, wearing a silver top, or rolled-up jeans that I'm too lazy to hem. I can attend to my hobbies and interests. I can listen to Punk or Classical music, without driving my mum nucking futs.

i like having my own space, i feel safer.

I like it, but often get very lonely and want someone to share it with.