Do you NOT want to make friends?

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The first paragraph certainly would have represented me in younger years. I had to make the effort to learn what was important to people in a conversation and then learn (mostly by reading) how to carry on a conversation. Once past that hurdle and at acquaintance level, i looked for their needs and met those when and how i could. These were just practical needs like helping with an errand or something. Then it just worked on from there, but i had to take initiative with someone i knew had some similar interests and values. Since i hand picked this friend, i knew there was no negative motive at all likely. Once the relationship grew, i had to do some listening to NT type drama and allow my friend to 'vent' without trying to fix it. That was hard, but worth it. It should also be noted that i tried and tried again with different people until i found one that accepted me. Then she introduced me to another.

If i offer what i can to benefit other people, i find that some will put up with my weirdness, and a few will even like it

I have a couple of good friends, but they understand that I need a lot of space and do not bother me when I am in my own world.

Other than them, I really do not care if anyone else likes me, and I do not go out of my way to make new attachments.

Most people only make small talk, and that really causes my skin to crawl.

Yes, but only on my own terms.

The trouble with other people is that they expect you to be around all the time, not just when it's convenient!

I want friends. But not today.