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I would agree with alot of what you just said, who dose not want a little minnie me.

Any parent wants the same thing Bradleigh.... as is programmed into all of us: It isn't a replicon of ourselves we want, but an improvement.

We want the version 2.0 to be released... better, faster, stronger.... more able to compete in this world that hinges singularly on perpetual competition. We want to make a winner that can do everything we couldn't.... because that is where all hope goes when we lose it for our selves.


It is futile, of course.
Offspring rarely carry your dreams forward and continue where you left off. They develop hopes and dreams of their own to fail, and attempt futiley to pass on to their own kids.
It is that which keeps the process going.
They're not better than us; they're just a different flavour of the same.


And it is the futility of that, quite aside from the overpopulation problem, that leaves me firm in the belief that I do not want to breed. No matter how good my genes are, and no matter how much better I believe my own offspring could be made than anyone else's..... in the end it counts for nothing, and I would only be wasting my time and doing exactly what I always resented my parents for doing: forcing a conscious, innocent, thinking mind into this cold, vicious, irrational world.

I'm selfish, but not THAT selfish.

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Funny you would put it that way. That's almost the exact same wording my father used when we were discussing this years ago. I was his failed experiment.

To the OP
I grew up being called "special". When I was 15 and met my father I immediately knew he was "special" too. We conspired for a while and tested my grandfather and found out he was "special" too. Right then I decided that I wanted to have a son so he could be special too. Now I have three daughters, and they all seem to be NT. Just a different perspective for you.

never know what will hapen.

Exactly

And I was my mother's Beta-Test.
I still remember wondering why she was acting all guilty one day... and out of the blue she admitted that she made all her parenting mistakes on me and didn't realise it until my younger brother came along.
My immediate reaction was: "....Err.... thanks. Thanks a lot. </sarcasm>"
Funny thing is... I have a University Degree, while my younger brother never even finished 6th Form.



I'm often curious about precisely how Autistic Spectrum features are carried from one generation to the next... but the higher apparent prevalence in Boys than Girls has often led to me thinking part of it might be recessive on the X Chromosome.
IF that is the case, then your three neurotypical daughters are probably "carriers".

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oh, please don't say he 'scares' you. That is what he feeds on! it is a mediocre trick to have a powerful web presence when in real time one is powerless.

Merle