All people on the spectrum want to be alone?

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It's is not that I really want to be alone but people think I go over the top and then get really annoyed.

So Im mostly pretty passive> people like me better this way.

Last edited by SIXLUCY on 19 Jul 2008, 9:25 am, edited 2 times in total.

Thats interesting, I think I have heard that before.

That was a good quote from Attwood, it describes exactly how it is in my case.
In social situations with many people, parties etc. I'll at one moment or another reach a "non-social point", where I have "filled my cup of being social" and don't have room for more of that in my head, so to speak. And then I'll usually go being alone for a while, or sit by a table just in my own thoughts, maybe letting the gaze rest on a corner of the ceiling (a nice, firm place to rest it ), or walk around in the room just thinking by myself, maybe sing a song quietly(nobody notices it because of the noise anyway). But I'll always return to the party afterwards after having my little break.

i like being alone because dealing with people is too confusing for me

people always have to misunderstand what i am saying and when they ask me for advice they get mad and yell and do other mean things when i tell them the answer they are asking and i just do not want to have to deal with that

I tell people to leave me alone when I need to calm down

I shut myself away
it is the safest place because sometimes when I start.. I just cant stop

Well wherever I go I like to have one area where I can go where I can be alone, that is why I feel uncomfterble when over someone elses place, sometimes I just want to go sit in the car. Though whenever you want to something like that they think you are being rude, at school I would always go to the librarey as there was barely anyone there. I hated it on rainy days when all the ignorant people would go to the libraery, they only whent there to get out of the rain for crying outloud and to anoy all the geeks that whent there.

I say f**k off out of my face b***h

I have to have my alone time but I obviously dont want to be alone or I wouldnt have 5 kids and a husband. I do know that I hate working with other people and have loved my jobs where I am alone. My last job I worked with another woman...we were both drawing blood for a doctors office. She went on vacation and I was soooooo happy......I was so happy that the day before she was due back I had a complete meltdown (crying at work) and could not explain to my boss why I was upset.

I prefer to be alone for certain reasons. I've found that NT's who don't understand my need for routines and rituals to maintain effective coping generally interefere and exacerbate my anxiety. Life for me improved dramatically when I got rid of roommates and was able to live as I needed and wanted.

I'm a nurse and constantly interacting with humans, so when my 12 hour shift is done I'm looking forward to as much solitude as possible. The spontaneity of my profession also makes it almost impossible to develope routines at work. My patients and peers have a love/hate relationship with me because of this.

They appreciate my skill and proficiency at procedures which other nurses cannot do as well or choose not to do at all, but they generally don't appreciate my "anti-social" behaviour. I cannot tolerate when other nurses do not handle medical equipment the way I do or do not maintain a clean work environment, so I'm always agitated with my co-workers.

However, I'm the best IV nurse on my team and the most skilled at performing bowel procedures/programs, so they tolerate my surly attitude towards them.