Do you also find the following questions irritating?

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I hate personal questions, at least from strangers. Friends I can deal with. I actually will just answer and blather on and on if someone I trust asks me.
My least favorite thing - if someone I hardly know at all finds out I'm engaged, they almost always say, "Aren't you a little young?" or, "You know you're not going to make it, right?"
I dislike questions like that in general, where all they're really trying to do is insult you or crush your hope.

Do you have friends?
No.
Why don't you have friends?
Because I don't want them.

Do you have a girlfriend?
No.
Why don't you have a girlfriend?
Because I am a woman. In case your wondering I don't have a boyfriend and don't want one. Most men see women as objects.

Do you drink or smoke?
No.
Why don't you drink or smoke?
Because I respect my body.

Do you go out on the weekends?
No.
Why don't you go out on the weekends?
Too busy persuing intrests and if that bothers you, too bad.

There you go NT person.

Wow. Hate all of these questions and more. Others:

What are you doing?
-talking to you...?

What do you do on the weekends?
-nothing...

Shouldn't you be partying or something?
-why?

Why are you such an assh-le?
-I'm not the one doing the interrogation...

Why don't you drive?
-Seen the gas prices lately? (Really=I can't, don't want to, and don't think you want me to...)

Are you always this pissed?
-WTF are you on about?



In reality tho, not many people are this rude, crude, and upfront. Most people I talk to are actually pretty interesting, and worth talking/listening to. It's the asswipes that need to "figure me out" that I have a problem with. As long as my space is respected, I'm good.

These are mostly standard questions for people to ask each other. Standard "getting to know you" type questions if you like.

If I have a problem with any of them at all, it's because of the situation I'm in. Such as being single. While that's nothing unusual, people seem like they are looking for a right or wrong answer. Because they are asking for the why, rather than the what. It puts you on the spot.

Take the question of whether you are single, and why. I don't think I get it so much in real life, but do get it a lot when chatting online. What am I supposed to say? Why am I single? It's pretty much because I have Asperger's. But my standard response is a short, sharp "I don't know". Of course I cannot say I have AS so soon into a chat.

It seems to me that people who DON'T ask these types of questions are people who feel as if they have social handicaps themselves that they are living and contending with. Those people don't bother which is good.

Looking through the questions people have posted, the question about owning/renting your home would have been problematic for me in the past. I'm now a homeowner but people's reactions were definitely different when I was renting.

And - this would apply more if I was in America or perhaps an American online was asking - questions about driving. I can't drive, have failed four tests and at any rate I may be too dyspraxic to drive. Walking in busy streets is difficult enough for me and driving is much more complex. It's not so much an issue here but in the American culture it would be socially awkward.

Anything else I would surely pass the interrogation - if it is something to be passed or failed.

They are standard questions though, and we Aspies just react in a different way.

My favorite answer to unwanted questions is...Why do you want to know?

"Well, when I was 22, see I had a car and everything, would go to the beach, and yeah pick up some chicks. Man, you're a stud, why the hell aren't you getting laid or something? You're wasting your life man, have some fun. I wish I was your age again man, you just need to 'open up.'"

F-ck that.[/quote]

Well, I´m 21 and won´t f-ck that for sure! I sometimes feel like I´ve wasted part of my life, so thank god I got my diagnosis and can work on it. I may not be adept at small talk, but that doesn´t mean I hate those conversations.

...and what´s bad about getting laid?

And when you get older the questions become where are you from? What's your occupation? Where did you go to college?

Three major ones to gauge someone's background, intelligence, right away. Cut to the quick. Decide if you have anything in common. This is what people do.

You can tell so much about a person by what they do for work, where they went to college, and where they were raised. It is somewhat true, I have to admit.

I hate being asked

Do you live with your husband?

What are the "symptoms (of asperger's?

What is it like having a "disease"?

Do you live with your parents (I am 28)?

Do you have a sight condition?

All so personal and none of their f*****g business and as for the ones about AS if they are so ignorant why should I bother explaining.

Hate all questions mentioned above the same as "call me" or "we should meet more often without fail" instead of "good-bye".

Yes i hate those questions, when i give them a one word answer they think im rude.. how about they don't ask me the questions then i won't be rude.

I hate being asked...

"You STILL don't drive?"

I guess I could say that I get lost in my own neighborhood and have trouble pumping gas into a car. My disability check doesn't pay enough to afford a car anyway...

"Why don't you ever talk?"

I'm not even sure how I'm supposed to answer this.

"Why do you look so sad?"

When I say I'm not sad they don't believe me

those questions sucks...
like a vacuum...
don't like them neither....
"why don't you get laid off"
well im prettly well rested

those questions are use by NT's to initiate conversation
they are trying to get as into their world and judge as when we step in...

why not bring them into our world...
well talk about quantum physics or ethereal
talk about history or inovations....
talk about the things you mastered since you were little

I can't stand most of those questions!! ! It's so annoying.