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peter9598
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10 Aug 2008, 2:12 pm

Just tell him. It will help him improve his life and if you're his only friend then who else will?

It will be a hard thing for him to hear no matter how you say it, but being direct and straightforward is best. Waiting for him to be in a crisis will not make it easier for him to understand.



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10 Aug 2008, 3:29 pm

javajunkie80 wrote:
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when I got excited about a friends new computer and I cut off my conversation with him and started flapping and walking off. He pointed out my flapping.
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I've noticed that NTs are quite fond of this subtle approach and tend to base some of these things on 'white lies'.


WAIT A SECOND!! !! ! You didn't know you flapped?!?!?!? OK, that is SCARY! I mean I started moving side to side in a CVS(drug) store, because my leg was turned around! I was SHOCKED! I never really thought about this until I heard about stims in AS, and now I catch myself sometimes. I have to wonder what else I do!

As for the white lie deal, YIKES! What if you are called on it!?!?!?



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11 Aug 2008, 3:45 pm

MR wrote:
I understand "put the rubbish out" just fine. I understand rubbish as a non-count noun just fine. What I didn't and still don't understand it "tying a rubbish back together". That is what I was asking about. I take it from you reply right now that you meant put the rubbish out. Okay, cool.

Wait, is "back" supposed to be "bag"? If so, it all makes sense now.


I meant bag :)



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11 Aug 2008, 4:33 pm

2ukenkerl wrote:
WAIT A SECOND!! !! ! You didn't know you flapped?!?!?!? OK, that is SCARY! I mean I started moving side to side in a CVS(drug) store, because my leg was turned around! I was SHOCKED! I never really thought about this until I heard about stims in AS, and now I catch myself sometimes. I have to wonder what else I do!

As for the white lie deal, YIKES! What if you are called on it!?!?!?


No I didn't know I flapped. Or finger flicked. Or lined things up...or anything like that! All of these things were pointed out AFTER I met people who knew what ASD was! I was the first born child and my parents thought I was normal - that's why they think my daughter is normal...she's just like me as a child. People always thought I was wierd/odd/a freak etc.

I catch myself beforeI flap most of the time now. But I finger flick a lot more. I use rough paper and run my figners across it (often until they blister/bleed) when I am really stressed and in public because it's less noticeable than anything else I do.

I don't know what you do if you get caught lying. I assume they would then tell the truth. But a friend of mine lies more to cover his lies...it's most amusing.