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31 Aug 2008, 11:08 am

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It seems logical that we would rather be around other people who are like us rather than other "normal" people.

I would think it is probably easier to tell whether someone has Asperger's than whether someone is gay. Some people do seem to have "gaydar" but strictly speaking the only thing that is "gay" is being attracted to the same sex and it is possible to conceal that entirely. It has got to be easier to conceal Asperger's than gayness - one can be gay but never act on one's attractions/desires, whereas it's pretty hard to have Asperger's and not "act on it".


I've know gays who have a feminine touch in thier demeanour and it wasn't taught, I saw them as little boys in my street. One of them 3 years younger than me when I was 12 and he alwyas palyed with girls, he turned out to be gay later. So some are born with a gayness or femininety about them adn cannot hide it either.


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31 Aug 2008, 11:14 am

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Loborojo wrote:
Maybe I am exaggerating but since my diagnosis and coming here I have started to think about people I meet, met and around me of whom I am nearly pretty sure they are aspie too.

I think of teh fact of how I had 'strange, weird behaving friends, (according to my mum), who in retrospect could have been Aspie.

Do we attract each other and do we have sort of Aspiedar (like in gaydar) to recognize others like us?


If you're judging by strange, weird behavior, then you're going to identify a lot of people as aspies who aren't, and miss a lot who are. Getting diagnosed is only the first step; you also need to get the stereotypes out of your head.


Maybe I expressed myself not so well by using weird, different in an aspie way would have been better, I think. I just wanted to say that I feel vibes even on TV I think I can spot them and i have a hunch that many an artist is or has to be Asperger.


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31 Aug 2008, 7:17 pm

I think that people in the spectrum in general have that radar. That is probably how my husband and I "found each other" even when we did not know back then anything about ASD or that we fell somewhere in there. Now that we have a child we autism, and spend so much time with people in the spectrum, I have even more ability to detect other people in the spectrum.



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01 Sep 2008, 12:57 am

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01 Sep 2008, 9:33 am

Well, I'm sporting an orange band now, so look out for the awful colour!



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02 Sep 2008, 2:24 am

Loborojo wrote:
I've know gays who have a feminine touch in thier demeanour and it wasn't taught, I saw them as little boys in my street. One of them 3 years younger than me when I was 12 and he alwyas palyed with girls, he turned out to be gay later. So some are born with a gayness or femininety about them adn cannot hide it either.

I don't doubt that some gay men are naturally feminine, but others aren't... And some straight men are naturally feminine.



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02 Sep 2008, 9:37 am

i know only one guy who fits the criteria. but we like each other.

btw, loborojo, if you can, don't change your avatar too often, i remember people by them.


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02 Sep 2008, 10:02 am

I surely can notice them, I am quite good at figuring people out in person, even so by the tone of their voice.

But I will never go to them and ask them "Sorry, do you have AS?".

I tought a friend of mine had Aspie traits. He did the testing and he's quite in the "normal" range (and his job is as a programmer) so even though I can figure people out, I still can make mistakes.

Not 100% efficient. Pleasant surprises, though.


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