Cruel "girl" tricks being played on my son at scho

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Sounds terrible. I don't know if this helps but I think this happens to many kids, even the so called "NT" kids. Kids are always playing jokes on each other, pranks. It isn't fun and I fully empathize. I guess all you can do is let people know you are human and have feelings and don't appreciate them being messed with:(
I think kids do this when their feelings are hurt, they let other kids know and they have a "learning experience" about what it means to be human.

Or they end up the police, generals, and politicans

or their spouses are cheating on them

You know something? Given your past posts on here and the way you are, I don't give a s**t what the f**k you think. You know absolutely NOTHING about the personal situation. Like the fact that my son himself considers his stepfather to be more of a father than his own sorry excuse of a father who's never understood or made any effort to understand his AS and who, along with his girlfriend, treats him terribly? And yes, he DOES know his stepfather well, and loves him.

His father and I were never married because he chose to shirk his responsibilities (you know responsiblity? Something you're always lecturing other aspies about?) and leave it all up to me. I went through the pregnancy and birth alone, as well as most of my son's life, including visits to ERs, and countless meetings with teachers and professionals and for his AS treatments, and dealing with his AS while his father did nothing, hardly even paid any child support and we had to go to court to get him to pay what little he was ordered to pay. I was the one who was always there when he hurt himself, who was up all night with him when he was sick, etc. etc. I bent over backwards to keep him in communication with his father. I was the one who provided all of the transportation back and forth, no matter what my own schedule was. And I was the one who dealt with my son's meltdowns and freakouts after each and every single f*****g visit because his idiot father simply refused to listen to me and the doctor about how to treat him and how to handle him. I His father (and, subsequently, the father's girlfriend, now fiance) "handled" things by yelling, screaming and hitting. Which was the absolute worst way to handle him.

His father is the one who's never made any effort whatsoever to see him these past couple of years, not even a damned phone call. It's his father's own goddamned fault for not seeing him, we've all done our parts to change that, to no avail. His stepfather is more of a father to him than his own father has ever been. His stepfather is also a mild aspie and understands what the kid is going through because he's been there and still is there. We've always been extremely close, and he's always been very close to my parents. Now that my stepfather is in a nursing home at a fairly young age, he's gotten even closer to my mother. A few years ago, I'd been laid off from two jobs in less than a year, one had been long-term. I couldn't find another one after months and months of searching, couldn't even get an unskilled or retail job to tide me over because I was "overqualified". I suddenly was offered a dream position a few states away and, after discussing it with everyone, we decided together that I would take the job and my son would come out after several months, once I was settled and the job was secure. But my son had been in the same house, the same neighborhood, with the same kids, and the same school district with the same students, all of his life.

He couldn't face that kind of a change and his AS would only make it ten times worse. It would have almost destroyed him. And I couldn't face no job, no prospects, no money and being unable to provide for him the way he needed. We talk and IM every day and see each other several times throughout the year. He's a tremendous emotional help to my mother. And I have plenty of responsibilities with him, financial as well as emotional. And I don't give a s**t whether you "agree" or not, you know absolutely nothing about it and it's none of your f*****g business anyway.

pwned XD

Or they are living sh***y lives.

Remember that you are getting advice from people on the spectrum. Many of them will be confrontational and be contrary for the sake of being contrary because it's how they relate to other people, or they are so used to having people treat them that way.
Nobody has the right to judge anyone else but themselves.

You are out of your mind. Get a grip.

He needs to deal with this himself. Explain to him that people can be cruel sometimes and that he needs to not become emotional about it. Tell him to control his negative emotions about it. It can be done if you try hard enough.

Get a grip? Do you let people walk over you and your friends and loved ones? She has no choice but to do something about it.
I think it's a perfect opportunity to educate some people and they shouldn't be allowed to get away with treating anyone like that.
If someone verbally abused my dog even, I'd put them in their place.

To say that her son needs to deal with it on his own is heartless and wimpy.

That sucks. It's so nice of those females to lay the seed of clinical depression for your son.

It's good that he let you know [as this is getting it out]; I wouldn't have been able to talk about such at his age. Not getting these feelings out will poison him internally, and this will lead to negative emotions, whether directed at himself or those who caused them--they'll fester and boil, with a good chance of imploding or exploding.

They are losers.

In my world that is what girls do, to the whole school. If they run it in public ignore it. Say something nice about them, and they will go off happy and seek another petting.

If they are serious they will find you alone, and and you can still expect play for pay.

Love is a tempory thrill, they are in it for thrills.

When you are older, have a nice apartment, car, life, you will find someone in your bed, not sure how she got there, or why she left. I am lucky, I cannot remember names or faces.

Don't buy the first horse you look at, don't marry the first girl you kiss.

They are not exes, nor old friends, just someone who was passing through.

I suggest teen movies with Cheerleaders and Nerds, they tell all.

Boyfriends are traded for a candybar, and as someone said, pick the most beautiful girl you can find, and there are several guys who are tired of her, never want to see her again.

We are human, we make bad choices, so remember, love ends, Herpies is forever.

Actually he should become emotional about it. Denying someone's feelings is unhealthy. That is what leads to passive-aggression. Let him become emotional and explain to him that it really does happen to sooooo many kids, not just autistic kids. If it didn't happen there wouldn't be any material for television shows like Dawson's Creek.

That's another thing that I don't get...this kid has just been through a difficult experience at school...and some on here are way less than sympathetic toward him but these same people would go completely apeshit if a dog or a cat went through the animal equivalent of this.

Like Magnus said, if someone verbally abused her dog she would put them in their place. How many of you would tolerate someone treating your dog like this? Then why tolerate it when it happens to a kid?

thats happened to me so many times i cant count. It sucks, i know.

Last edited by chtucker18 on 12 Sep 2008, 8:37 am, edited 1 time in total.

That is extremely cruel. I'm sorry they did that to your son.

NT girls are more likely to single out and pick on my son. NT boys don't, unless there's some girl around that they are trying to impress. I've actully told my son not to trust what I call "flashy" girls. I mean, the socially successful girls. He can't protect himself from them, except by steering clear of them.