Is it wrong to complain about a neighbor who is....

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Just noticed that you live in Malibu.

I think I'd complain -- it's a totally different thing with housing in California where your property values REALLY matter (I'm originally from California). Massachusetts is such a laid-back state, and whether your neighbor's yard looks good or not doesn't really reflect on your house values. California is a whole different story. . .

I think this is more of a point of rules. It is easy to understand how the OP is agitated, even if this were not happening right next to their property. I once had my car parked beside my house to make room for company to park in the driveway because my neighbors across the street are always blocking the street with their cars. After my company left, I did not move my car, and before the end of the day I had someone at my door informing me I was not allowed to park in my yard. I did not complain because I was, in fact, breaking the rules. We were new to the neighborhood and I knew they were just trying to make a point...we have rules here. Nevermind the fact that the neighbors across the street never keep their yard mowed and always block the street. No sense in having two trouble makers, right?

If your house isn't on the market, she's doing no harm. Let her grow some food.

vege patches are ugly, unsightly things.

I like Dw a mom's suggestion of asking for some of the produce.

I also agree with other suggestions though, that if you are not going to be selling your house soon, it's probably not worth making trouble. Good for her for growing her own veggies (although I guess the location is unfortunate)- they're probably healthier than store-bought. I'm sorry it bothers you though. I like looking at plants, so I don't think I would mind.

Where I live, everyone's property butts against everyone else's with no communal space in-between, so this situation seems somewhat unusual to me.

You seem to be implying that we are being a-holes for not allowing them to eat.

First off, they already are growing an unsightly farm on their property. Enough is enough. This is a housing community. Not a farming community.

If they can not afford to buy groceries and follow the community rules at the same time, then they should move.

I am asking this question in the wrong place. What do people with AS know about following social rules?

Obviously some of us are more socially adept than others.

Your HOA might soon decide that the food-growing lady is much less offensive than the annoying neighbor who complains all the time.

You better go check out front, I think I hear some kids on your lawn.

You haven't left.

Digging up posts from other threads eh? Classy. Now compare me to Hitler and/or Nazi's and you've got the forum trolling thing mastered.

But really, it doesn't seem like you wanted anyone's opinions when starting this thread. Not if you're just going to call people names who disagree with you. You stop posting, I'll stop posting, and just go back to whatever it is you do.

It is one thing to state we might be wrong. Another to imply we are a-holes.




I am sure everyone in your neighborhood finds you charming.

Time for lateral thinking....

Put in your own veggie patch and sell your house through grassroots or the vegan times.

I'm told it's called "Value Adding"

Wanna trade those veggies on your easement for the dog turds on mine? THANKS!

Did one of her carrots get lodged up your ass or something?

That last comment was uncalled for. Don't get all bent out of shape because people are disagreeing with you.

I bet if the economy went to hell and food prices skyrocket you would be looking at the garden in a different light.

Ok that last comment had nothing really to do with the topic.

Unless the housing community rules state that having such is against the rules though, you have no case. End of story.

and....Pixshures plz! I wanns see the godawful garden.

I honestly don't see a problem with them growing food. If it's not on your property, there should be no problem. If I had neighbors that were complaining to me about my property, screw them. Even my own mother wouldn't care either. She had weird complaints also about our yard because the grass needed to be cut and my mother didn't want to do it that day. She just let them complain and not do a thing about it.
In that neighborhood, properties between homes were split. One side was ours and the other side was the neighbors. It was like that will all the neighbors. Some even had fences in between.

My mother also had a garden in our backyard. It was a good place for it because if we had it right next to our house, then neighborhood kids would come and eat the food so the backyard was the best place. But our neighbor who lives behind us didn't want our raspberry plants growing over his fence so we had to make sure they weren't leaning over it or he would have snipped them off. I never understood why. At least they got some raspberries too so why didn't they want any? I was willing to share.

I would move to a community where I could afford groceries AND follow the association rules.




There are rules against it. THAT IS THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS THREAD.

What is it with cat owners? There isn't one I get along with.

Are they not allow to grow their food between the house or not in their yard or is it both?