Do you go out alone?

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oops, sorry everyone, English is not my native language... By "go out" I meant going out for fun, not errands or work/school. I mean movies, eating out, etc.

Oh! Got it!

As an adult, I 'do' most things alone that require 'thinking'-grocery shopping, driving errands. I look at them as tasks, work. And being around others a different work. 1 works or 2?
People throw in a whole nuther variable to paying attention to my surroundings-so somewhere where I need to concentrate on both not bumping into a shelf, or knocking over someones kid-and remembering what I'm there for become factors. Its rare that I know someone or even 'see' someone living who isn't WORK to be around.

I've never been to a movie alone. I've taken some short long distance outings with another. Just to get far out of town and swim a new KOA pool. Generally 300miles is my limit for comfort. I used to enjoy and go out everywhere with my spouse, but he went insane and is now dead. I think maybe when/if I'm 60 I'll replace him.

I enjoy going out alone and being anonymous. When I'm alone there are no time constraints or thought interruptions. I like to wander around the city, see new sights and browse second hand book stores. Browsing the bookstores requires a lot of time and most people I know would not enjoy spending their time that way.

hello richs10128!
Yes, I used to go to the bars and read and drink, and the idea when I started to be 'sociable' I would know it was time to go home. Unfortately, it excerabled my alcoholism until I hit bottom and (laid in the bottom for years) and was a social pariah. I later found people in AA to be just as first name friendly as anyone in the bars and being sober, I didn't try to jump their bones.
I had blackouts and considered them intentional, that I didn't want to know what my body was doing when I was behaving as badly as people told me when I sobered up.
I also gave up drinking forever. . .well, 24 years so far.

Merle

hello richs10128!
Yes, I used to go to the bars and read and drink, and the idea when I started to be 'sociable' I would know it was time to go home. Unfortunately, it exacerbated my alcoholism until I hit bottom and (laid in the bottom for years) and was a social pariah. I later found people in AA to be just as first name friendly as anyone in the bars and being sober, I didn't try to jump their bones.
I had blackouts and considered them intentional, that I didn't want to know what my body was doing when I was behaving as badly as people told me when I sobered up.
I also gave up drinking forever. . .well, 24 years so far, but you never know.

Merle

i do never go out alone.
i always go out accompanied by myself.

i have not many friends, so i decide i will be my friend when i go out.

i do not want any intrusions.

i never feel lonely.

i like to go out to see the world in ultimate high definition.

but it is all mainly repeats i have found.

whatever.

when i go out, i go alone in my own company.

Same here, b8. I have the best time by myself. It's only when I meet people I know, and knowing they're appalled by seeing me alone in a social place, that my confidence crumbles.

KingofRats, I wish we lived near and I could join you guys for the night walk...

I go to concerts alone on a regular basis cause my friends unfortunately have no taste in music ;p I've been to the cinema on my own quite a few times and enjoyed it- no distractions, I could really focus on the film.

I would never go to a bar alone though. when I don't feel like staying in and my mates are busy I just take a long walk. with an iPod

Yes, I tend to go out alone as, I don't realistically know anyone where I live so my statement is quite true but, more to the point is that I often feel somewhat awkward in social situations therefore, it's easier when I'm by myself if this makes sense?

When I'm away at college, I always go out alone because I don't have any friends here that would go with me. However, when I'm living back in my home town on breaks, I go places with my family and sometimes get to see my best friend. Hopefully in the near future I won't have to go out alone as much.

Okay, then my answer is that I only go out for functional, pragmatic purposes. Don't really have recreational (non-professional) friends in my location-with whom to go places. Plus, for me, "fun" is only at home-I enjoy the activities I do here, such as draw, read & write.

Still unsure how to vote (make accurate selection) in this poll.
The thing is, if I do have rare visit from friend, then I like to go get things done-and it's less awful if someone else is with me, I feel less anxious with a "safe" buffer person accompanying me. I enjoy socializing, but only in a private environment with no more than 1 or 2 people (assuming I know them already & feel okay about them).

Wish I had friends to visit me so I wouldn't have to go out, because I don't enjoy things people do in public & in groups (mostly). I do like sharing conversation, but can't just "go out & find that" from some strangers (that I might theoretically become familiar with, in hopes of one day becoming friends).

I do almost all my shopping alone. When I go to a show or a bar, I'm probably alone about 20% of the time, and have some kind of vague plans to meet up with someone the other 80%. Other than those activities, I rarely do anything that counts as "going out".

I almost always go out alone. I can handle company sometimes, but for the most part the world outside my house is overloading enough without the added stress of having someone there expecting me to interact with them.

Do you feel embarrassed when you meet people you know and they're not alone themselves?

Realize this wasn't addressed to me, but I saw Greentea made similar post on other thread about "how much do you stand out" (which I keep confusing with this thread), so figured I might as well cover them both with my comment here.

Yes, if they're people I wanted to hang out with & I feel left out.
No, if they're not people of great interest to me.
Generally feel awkward around anyone & everyone (strangers or familiar) when "out of doors", in a public space/environment.

In particular (and hope this isn't TMI), absolutely dread the day I'll accidentally see my ex-boyfriend & his new girlfriend together (out in public). Idea just terrifies me, know I'll totally lose my compusure (to the extent I have any when not safely hidden away at home).

As for voting in poll, since I'm so confused as to which to pick, I just went with "other".