Happy Aspies?

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I am happy because I survived my life's trials and grew from it all, to put it in a single sentance.

I am happy with my life.

I have a good job, pets, good health and friends on various Internet sites.

Happy pills help me be happy.

I'm very happy!



I've always been happy!

I'm satisfied with my life.

1) Cogito - and all those amazing people there!
2) Learning new things, by discovering them - books.
3) Finding out more about myself. Thinking about things of that nature. Tidying up my mind.

Yes, I would say I am very content and the average day goes pretty good for me as long as my routines aren't thrown off.

I know I can be happy, if I have a reason to be.

That sounds good. How did you manage to find such a person?

I'll have to be honest and say it's having a girlfriend ¬_¬

I get really depressed and turn into a horrible person when I don't have one =/ And I can't stand sitting at home and stewing, I have to try to get out of the house and hang out with friends more often (which isn't always viable).

I can't speak for the person you quoted, but my son found his because I arranged a carpool with the child's parents way back in first grade. The boys didn't know each other at all at the time; I was just trying to make my own life easier.

OK, so you look at that and think, well, that isn't going to happen for me, now. But the point is, sometimes you can create a little luck by increasing the opportunities for it.

I no longer care about being "happy". It looks to me as though being happy takes an awful lot of effort and energy. And frankly- I'm too lazy for that business.
I simply try to work on accepting things as they are without stressing over things I can't do anything about.
I accept the that world and people in general are going to hell in a handbasket.
I accept that I am only one, tiny insignificant person out of over 6 billion. Nothing I ever say or do will ever have an effect worth remembering past my death.
I accept all that is effed-up with me as well as the cool things.
I simply accept.
Maybe I'm a little zen like that.

She went to the same high school as me and she hated me in high school, lol. She was not my friend there. We did have things in common in high school. We both had the same interest in the local music scene and alternative music in general, plus creativity, art, etc. Because of the social hierarchy and pressure that exists in schools her attitude toward me was same as the other kid's.
I made friends with people who didn't go to my school because no one at my school liked me and I had no good relationships with any of them but a few and I had trouble getting along with them as well. The whole situation was very damaging to me.
I thought these new friends could help me recover from the negative school experience and I could cope with my life.
Pretending that problems like this do not exist for kids with AS is counterproductive, they existed for me. I think kids with AS are at risk, same as kids in other higher risk groups. They could be at a higher risk for acting out behaviours if their needs are not met or if they are misunderstood.
At the time I had no diagnosis, no one knew what my problem was. I got labeled "lazy, doesn't apply herself, oppositional, won't try, bad attitude".
I squandered my abilities while trying to cope with my situation and make it better.
Because I could not sustain interest and lacked drive I eventually became bored with my new friends and could no longer stand the thought of dealing with them. I wanted to distance myself, something that is a recurring theme in my life. So...I distanced myself and lost touch with them. I met up again with someone I knew from school, a different girl who was my sorta friend. She liked me only a little but was a good hearted type.
So, she reintroduced me to the girl from high school who became really good friends with me for a few years.
The point being, lol...I realize this post is getting long and derailing some...anyway...even though I didn't think so at the time- I didn't think any of the people who went to my school could do anything but hate me always-I eventually found a really good friend from one of the school NTs who hated me. We happened to share eccentric interests and once we were out of the school structure...we could hang out together.
She also opened doors for me, I met people I never dreamed of meeting all while I was with her. If this happened to me, I am sure it could happen to most of you with AS.

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Yes, yes I am happy.

Collecting facts is the source of happiness in relation to myself (yep, he's a walking stereotype).

I once said:

I don't need to feel happy. I would settle with just feeling human.

Im happy because i know what to do and im in control of my life at this point

I am happy.

Real happiness comes without reason in my opinion. I can't say why I'm happy and have always managed to take quiet happiness/content with me throughout life.

I like these, they sum it up pretty well for me personally:

No idea if my way is hard to get for others, because it sure is hard for me to understand why others don't feel like me too.

Even with abuse, bullying, pain and loss in life, happiness without reason can be present, whereas if your reason for happiness was purely being unscathed for a lifetime, not being bullied, not being in pain, being together with certain people that are never to leave, happiness is tough and sometimes even impossible to keep, I think. Sometimes happiness must be packed up if there's pain, but that happiness can be back when the source of pain is gone.