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Way cool, Greentea!

Is your building like this, tomboy? Is this common in the US?

I know of a few apartment complexes around me in chicago that are singles oriented that do things like this. Sounds like the kind of place you are in. But I think for the most part, in my experiance, it's mostly just families and lots of kids or old people who want to socialize too much hehe.

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I am sorry you are so lonely, Greentea. I have an old sick dog who keeps me company, and will get the old cat when the dog has passed .

I know many buildings do not allow pets.

What about a reading club? (I wish I could start/join an Existential Reading Club, but not in redneck Barrie. If I move back to Toronto, there is more opportunity.) Do you live in a big enough city where this might be possible?

You have found your mind!

Thanks, willa. It's cool that there are buildings like this... And I'm old people too, so it'll be fun, hehe

Sue, I live in a city that has an amazing quantity and variety of cultural activities and workshops and groups, most at walking distance. Sadly, I've to have fun on my own, too intolerable by others. I spent a lovely afternoon reading in the park just now. This place I got me to live recently is the only ray of light in all the darkness. It's in one of the most distinguished neighbourhoods, and 2 blocks from the central park, which is lovely. The rowers in the river, the bikers along it, the dogs and kids and runners...all glowing in the late afternoon autumn sun and breeze, it's a rare thing in a city that has at least 5 months a year of scorching, unbearable sun and humidity.

I have lived in an apartment complex in the past that offered social get-togethers. I'm not sure how common this is. I now live in a townhouse community. Everyone pretty much keeps to themselves. Just got to know a neightbor, but she is moving away soon. Story of my life! Always alone! I'm ok with it. Someday, if things get better moneywise, I'm going to get another dog. It's been more than 17 years since I had one. Dogs are the best company. There's no judgment, only unconditional love.

That seems to be a familiar dichotomy- being lonely yet not knowing how to go about NOT being lonely. I totally get it. When I was living in Miami Beach I usedta take my book and go sit on the beach wall and read, watch people go by and generally feel more in touch without being touched or having to actually interact. I was among people, just not with people. Make sense? It helped to fill that void of not being seen.

I love that! I like big cities for this reason I can just walk around and be amongst people but no one will bother you, no one wants to. When I was in college I lived near the airport so I used to go there all the time to read and do work. People just think you're another traveler waiting on your change over or something and dont bother you. Or if they did it was briefly as they went on their way quickly, Single Serve Friends as Fight Club put it =P, my favorite kind.

To be among people but not with people, it illustrates it perfectly!

Yes, airports are the best for that. Sometimes when I'm too lonely at night I feel like driving to the airport. It's always like daytime there, the stores are open, and there are always people coming and going.

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I have compassion for you, Greentea. I have not been lonely for 35 years, if ever, due to being a mother and having kids around. Many autistic mothers and fathers will tell you this. (They will often state that they need a break from emotional contact!)

I just read your Dino-style biography in the In-Depth Adult Discussion Issues. You are very well educated, much more than me (high school only and self-educated). I tutor math (to Grade 10) and English (to Grade 12) for those who are in high school and need help with homework and essays.

It is unfortunate you could not become a teacher, at least helping adults. You have talent! I know kids can be a pain.

I was a teacher for many years, actually.