Do you react to tone of voice?

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Oh yes.

I'm very sensitive to someone's tone of voice, perhaps too sensitive.
I sometimes painfully feel someone's anger/hurt, sometimes so strongly that I want to run from it.
Perhaps I do take things a little to personally?

I don't honestly think that anyone (apart from a tiny minority) actually enjoys being yelled at and degraded verbally.

If someone uses a growling tone of voice, that's aggressive.
Look at Chimps and they communicate their frustrations towards each other in the same way.

A couple:

When my mother is anxious (I can read her perfectly when she is); this makes me feel anxious
When people yell/fight (this isn't hard to miss); this makes me feel tense

O, and if someone goes mad at me, I laugh at them (it's my automatic response); this has made for some fun times.

oh, that is an old song! my mother used to sing it too,
it's a conversation between two dating people, here are the lyrics.

I really can't stay
(but baby it's cold outside)
I've got to go away
(but baby it's cold outside)
This evening has been
(been hoping that you'd drop in)
So very nice
(i'll hold your hands, they're just like ice)
My mother will start worry
(beautiful whats your hurry)
My father will be pacing the floor
(listen to the fireplace roar)
So really i'd better scurry
(beautiful please don't hurry)
but maybe just a half a drink more
(put some records on while i pour)
the neighbors might faint
(baby it's bad out there)
say what's in this drink
(no cabs to be had out there)
i wish i knew how
(your eyes are like starlight now)
to break this spell
(i'll take your hat, your hair looks swell)
i ought to say "no, no, no sir"
(mind if i move in closer)
at least i'm gonna say that i tried
(what's the sense in hurtin' my pride)
i really can't stay
(oh baby don't hold out)

both:baby it's cold out side

i simply must go
(but baby it's cold outside)
the answer is no
(but baby it's cold outside)
your welcome has been
(how lucky that you dropped in)
so nice and warm
(look out the window at that storm)
my sister will be suspicious
(gosh your lips look delicious)
my brother will be there at the door
(waves upon the tropical shore)
my maiden aunts mind is vicious
(gosh your lips are delicious)
but maybe just a cigarette more
(never such a blizzard before)
i've gotta get home
(but baby you'd freeze out there)
say lend me a coat
(it's up to your knees out there)
you've really been grand
(i thrill when you touch my hand)
but don't you see?
(how can you do this thing to me?)
there's bound to be talk tomorrow
(think of my lifelong sorrow)
at least there will be plenty implied
(if you got pneumonia and died)
i really can't stay
(get over that old out)

both:baby it's cold
baby it's cold outside

I'm a mixture.

I've been in situations where one person's blowing their stack and everybody else is looking shocked, and I've moved closer and calmly listened to the angry one, kind of signalling "it's OK to be angry." I suspect that comes from my own frustrations because when I've shown anger nobody else seems able to cope with it.

On the other hand, I find people who are loud and aggressive by nature just annoying.

I am very, very sensitive to tone of voice. If I detect anger or criticism in somebody's voice, I become angry myself. But it's not just reaction of emotions for me. Tone of voice is a big sensory issue, too. I have always been very picky about people's voices. Some voices are just intolerable for me to listen to, others are gorgeous. For the intolerable voices, having to listen to them is as bad as having to sit under flourescent lights or wear tight clothing. It can also affect which TV shows I like. For example, in all of the shows that are special interests for me, I like the characters'/actors' voices. I really like Tom Kenny's SpongeBob voice overall, but it's the most pleasant sounding during season three, which is largely why season three of SpongeBob SquarePants is my favorite.
-OddDuckNash99-

*Duets

This is a serious issue for me, and I suspect for many with AS. I tend to read FAR TOO MUCH into a tone of voice. This has been a constant source of meltdowns in the past. I am now very careful to ask questions and not assume that I have read the situation correctly, much in the same way as I do for facial expression.

II think many of us need to remind ourselves of our disorder and not trust to our 'intuition'

I'm very sensitive to tone and vocal inflection; however, I consider it a learned response as expression differs between people.


M.

I used to think the same. I thought I was super intuitive because I was able to spot inflections that others couldn't. Since my DX I am painfully aware that often the reason others couldn't spot the inflections was simple; they didn't exist

I can relate to parts of that; more often, I misread between subtle differences in expressions, or get confused when there is conflict between visage and verbage. There are often times that I sense something that isn't there. At the same time, I've learned over time to spot tells... for example, when one ex was worrying about something, one tell was that she bit her lower lip in a specific way. Took time and effort, but turning people into a poker game kind of helped.


M.

Yeah I do think that I react...my voice and attitude and everything remain pretty calm generally. But if someone talks to me in a tone that sounds angry or a little to loud like they're yelling it doesn't take long before I snap and get this kind of aggressive pit bull sort of attitude...I've even been known to snarl(is that the right word) at some point. I do not like the whole angry tone of voice thing...

Yes. I'm easily effected by tone of voice. I hate when people use a stern, though not necessarily angry tone, because I think that they're angry even if they're not. I hate people who use voices like that at me when they're not angry because there is no need to then. I react badly to that tone. I like it when people use softer, calmer voices.