How can a good looking guy make himself unattractive?

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Mw99
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30 Nov 2008, 12:07 am

ephemerella wrote:
Top Ten Ways An Attractive Man Can Scare Off Women

10. Say you still live with Mom, and she does all your cooking, laundry, bills and cuts your hair
9. Wear shirt with obvious and multiple food dribble stains down front
8. Wear ultra thin, clingy polyester shirt with no undershirt so you can see every hair, nipple feature on your chest
7. As soon as you meet them, ask where they live and whether there are surveillance video cameras
6. When they ask about your friends, make vague references to your doctors at the Centers for Disease Control
5. Tell them that your best friend is a bugbear that you have successfully frozen, thawed and revived 10 times
4. Wear mascara (unfortunately, attracts same sex)
3. Tell them that you were the guy in the "Leave Her Alone!" Britney Spears YouTube video
2. Ask them how many times they want to be married
1. Ask them how they feel about abortion; no matter what their answer, stare coldly at them afterward


But all of those techniques involve an element of rejection, which is precisely what I am trying to avoid. The idea is to make myself physically unattractive so I don't have to bother with the trouble of scaring women off before they reject me.



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30 Nov 2008, 12:08 am

or the low-maintenance route; just keep the weight...;)

Colored underwear and light, thin white jeans. Worked for me for years (the missus reminds me of it every now and again...;)

Though why you want to waste your good looks is beyond me, we can trade, and I guarantee a life of monastic bliss...;)



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30 Nov 2008, 12:11 am

pakled wrote:
or the low-maintenance route; just keep the weight...;)


I am so overweight I feel sick. I need to shed some pounds, for my own good.



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30 Nov 2008, 12:18 am

pakled wrote:
Colored underwear and light, thin white jeans. Worked for me for years (the missus reminds me of it every now and again...;)



So thats what i've been doing wrong.... :P



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30 Nov 2008, 12:33 am

A really bag wig perhaps? The cheap halloween kind?



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30 Nov 2008, 12:47 am

First thought: lose 30 lbs instead of 40. Second thought: the T-shirt idea is interesting. And the other obnoxious "stay away" messages.

Final thought: wear something that says you are deeply into whatever is your special interest. Then you'll attract the right kind of woman. You can start right in with an interesting conversation, and you won't be socially awkward. You proudly point to the shirt, which says "I'm not a geek, I'm a Level-90 Paladin" or whatever, and ask "Are you with the Alliance or the Hoard? Either she runs screaming into the night or you've got a match made in heaven.



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30 Nov 2008, 12:58 am

Tahitiii wrote:
First thought: lose 30 lbs instead of 40. Second thought: the T-shirt idea is interesting. And the other obnoxious "stay away" messages.


in re first thought: good point.

Final thought: wear something that says you are deeply into whatever is your special interest. Then you'll attract the right kind of woman. You can start right in with an interesting conversation, and you won't be socially awkward. You proudly point to the shirt, which says "I'm not a geek, I'm a Level-90 Paladin" or whatever, and ask "Are you with the Alliance or the Hoard? Either she runs screaming into the night or you've got a match made in heaven.[/quote]

I am not looking for a partner.



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30 Nov 2008, 2:52 am

Drool running down your chin can do the trick.

Picking your nose in public. Snot on your cheek.

Basically, the hygiene issues are turn offs. But not dirt - that is manly. We're talking gross, germy stuff.

And I think the wedding ring is a good idea; while some women target married men, it's far fewer than the number of women looking for a single one. Similar would be cigarettes (don't have to smoke them); while some women find it attractive, more don't.

My son has a habit of chewing on his tongue, which twists his face in a quite unattractive way. That's something else you can try.

Better yet, get some social skills practice. Fun as it is to help you out here with ways to be unattractive, I'd rather you find that special woman who will love your uniqueness. Rejection is a big part of the dating game, unfortunately.

Then again, it's easy enough to wipe away the drool when you realize you've met a woman who isn't so quick to reject you because of an awkward moment or two. :wink:


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30 Nov 2008, 2:58 am

Why not just ignore them?

I get guys approaching me and if I don't really like them I'll show that I'm not interested, usually by ignoring them.



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30 Nov 2008, 3:07 am

Try not bathing for a week and then get back to me.



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30 Nov 2008, 3:13 am

Mw99 wrote:
ephemerella wrote:
Top Ten Ways An Attractive Man Can Scare Off Women

10. Say you still live with Mom, and she does all your cooking, laundry, bills and cuts your hair
9. Wear shirt with obvious and multiple food dribble stains down front
8. Wear ultra thin, clingy polyester shirt with no undershirt so you can see every hair, nipple feature on your chest
7. As soon as you meet them, ask where they live and whether there are surveillance video cameras
6. When they ask about your friends, make vague references to your doctors at the Centers for Disease Control
5. Tell them that your best friend is a bugbear that you have successfully frozen, thawed and revived 10 times
4. Wear mascara (unfortunately, attracts same sex)
3. Tell them that you were the guy in the "Leave Her Alone!" Britney Spears YouTube video
2. Ask them how many times they want to be married
1. Ask them how they feel about abortion; no matter what their answer, stare coldly at them afterward


But all of those techniques involve an element of rejection, which is precisely what I am trying to avoid. The idea is to make myself physically unattractive so I don't have to bother with the trouble of scaring women off before they reject me.


So you want something that is a turn-off but not a personally negative rejection (of the "what a loser" or "what a weirdo") type. Maybe what you are looking for is a cultural turn-off, i.e. where someone finds you unattractive for cultural reasons and not personal ones.

10. Wear Wiccan jewelry but play Christian Evangelical music
9. Do (as some has suggested) your hair in a Joe Dirt mullet with big sideburns
8. Wear ultra thin, clingy polyester shirt with no undershirt so you can see every hair, nipple feature on your chest
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2. Ask them how many times they want to be married
1. Ask them how they feel about abortion; no matter what their answer, stare at them uncomfortably



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30 Nov 2008, 4:56 am

If you're looking to just be healthier, you might be able to keep the weight and get in shape without dieting instead. Apparently, fat people who exercise are just as healthy as thin people. (I should know. I'm a fat person who exercises. :P)

I'd work on ways to reject them first... very early in the relationship... and in such a way that she knows you are not rejecting her, but rejecting dating generally.

I usually tell people I'm not into dating or I'm not available. People who actually become friends learn what "asexual" means and that I REALLY am not attracted to either gender.


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30 Nov 2008, 5:18 am

pensieve wrote:
Why not just ignore them?

I get guys approaching me and if I don't really like them I'll show that I'm not interested, usually by ignoring them.


This is the best way. It might be difficult to get right at first, but once you can get some practice in it, and add a disinterested look, it works a charm. Better yet, there's generally no hard feelings - the other person will just move on.

I think it's a choice you have to make. I have chosen being healthy and clean and caring for my appearance, and I accept the consequences of unwanted attention (as 99% of the guys who approach me are not my type; "my type" is unfortunately not common in society). Sometimes it really sucks, but you learn to live with it, and you learn better ways to stave it off over time.

It's important not to let it make you bitter or nasty, a few times this year I have caught myself sounding jaded in a really negative way about it. It's hard when you're used to having your own space and being ignored unless you purposefully chose to speak to the other person.


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30 Nov 2008, 5:34 am

Wear old T-shirts, filthy, smelling ones. Or with childish prints on it, like Donald Duck or Santa Claus or whatever. Don't groom yourself too much, don't use more than deodorant, so no nice parfumes. Ugly shoes can help too. Look very arrogant, or unintereted in anyone or anything. I do this, and it does work! :)


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30 Nov 2008, 6:02 am

Tell people in excessive detail about any minor contagious skin problems/allergies that you really have (if you have them and really need help with them). Use the correct medical terminology too.

If they say: "What's that on your arm?"

Say: "Well that's actually Molluscum Contagiosum..."

It's the perfect way to clear a crowded room!


Be truthful, don't hide anything from anyone, especially your weaknesses. Don't be discreet. Ask people intrusive questions about their lives at the start of the conversation. Interrogate people. Invade their person space.

Sadly, the biggest turn-off I've ever had is to tell people that I'd been labeled with AS in the past. Mention the word "Asperger's Syndrome" and most people will think it's a horrid, incurable disease. Say those two words and connect them with yourself and watch your friends/lovers run away and disappear forever. They may also call you a stuck-up liar and say that you're offensive to people who do really "suffer" with it.

Sadly, this really does work and most people don't want to understand. Lots of people are ignorant. They don't even care if the label was slapped on at a young age by professionals and if the person who was labeled didn't have a say in the matter. As far as they're concerned, "syndrome" sounds like a disease, even though it is not, and they want to avoid "diseases" in case they "catch" anything.

I've tried all of the above methods so I should know.



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30 Nov 2008, 8:01 am

If you don't want attention, just stay at home and read a lot. I find that pale and dazed-looking is a lady-repellent. Definitely avoid Barnes & Noble.

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