abusers who target people on the autism spectrum

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Someone who is an outright jerk can't harm you in such a way. Such a person is honest about who they are from the beginning and you can make choices based on that.
Ones that put up false fronts are like gift horses. They are far more insidious and can do much more damage. Plus, they can do a number on your ability to trust others.

It's an interesting topic for sure. How can you tell someone is really sociopathic? How do they get away with staying sociopathic? Seems like someone would do the right thing and call it to their attention so they can get out of that sociopathic pattern at some point? Especially since the sociopathic personality is so likeable. People tend to think they are salvagable because of the charming personality so are more inclined to feel sorry for them and help them.
My question is: can a sociopath be helped? Can they alter their behaviours based on the ability to develop insight?
Can they be rehabilitated?
Also, is there really such a thing as a sociopath or is it just "sociopathic behaviours"? Maybe there isn't such a thing as a sociopath, since someone can be heartless to one person and not to another. For instance, someone with a prejiduce can display sociopathic tendencies to anyone they have a prejiduce against but not others.
Another consideration: subconscious sociopathic behaviour. Ie: sociopathic acts and patterns the person displaying isn't even aware could be interpreted as sociopathic by others, a mild version.
Physical abuse is obvious, but there's a lot more that isn't.

Yes, I've been in an abusive relationship mainly from the context of emotional puppeterring of such, as my strings were constantly being pulled and I never realised how this person was doing a great deal of manipulation as such.Anyways, that was years ago and I've learned much even if I tend to be less trusting these days, I still try to maintain a sense of optimism & hope though..

How can you tell someone is really sociopathic?
I don't think you can with out studying them for a long time
How do they get away with staying sociopathic?
because we live in a world full of enablers who just want to feel like good people and the sociopaths give them that, they are the best ego strokers.
Seems like someone would do the right thing and call it to their attention so they can get out of that sociopathic pattern at some point?
I actually tried to help my abuser recover, he just took everything I said (or the books etc said) and used it to look like he had recovered, I think that the only thing that would really work is something like DBT where the wiring in their brain is corrected otherwise it is still wired to give them a pay off when they abuse, one of my first red flags came from watching what he did to other people and how much satisfaction he got from taking advantage of and manipulating people.
Especially since the sociopathic personality is so likeable. People tend to think they are salvagable because of the charming personality so are more inclined to feel sorry for them and help them.
People love a good pity party don't they, personally I can't stand complainers and whiners (can you guess why?) and yes people are still trying to help him, unfortunately they are trying to help him get back at me because he has convinced them that he is the victim, fortunately I have the actual evidence on my side, I have learned to use his patterns of insanity to protect myself, being autistic has actually helped in this regard.
My question is: can a sociopath be helped? Can they alter their behaviours based on the ability to develop insight?
Can they be rehabilitated?
Only if they really want to be, you can't force someone to change and the unfortunate truth is that what they do works very well in our society to get their needs met, my ex is literally addicted to pity and to praise, he just can't function if he isn't getting is from someone, fortunately his Mom always gives him a good dose of both usually at the same time.. he says that it makes him feel loved
Also, is their really such a thing as a sociopath or is it just "sociopathic behaviours"? Maybe there isn't such a thing as a sociopath, since someone be heartless to one person and not to another. For instance, someone with a prejiduce can display sociopathic tendencies to anyone they have a prejiduce against but not others.
I'm sure there are variations just like with anything else, but in my opinion they don't develop a healthy functioning conscience and then they take all of the dysfunctional things they witness growing up and use them to get their needs met.

Another consideration: subconscious sociopathic behaviour. Ie: sociopathic acts and patterns the person displaying isn't even aware could be interpreted as sociopathic by others, a mild version.
I think most people want to be good people but they feel like they are bad and then project it out into the world so that they can live with themselves, the sad part is that they are full of hate and anger and aren't even capable of feeling the love they so desperately need
Physical abuse is obvious, but there's a lot more that isn't.
I think that when they cracked down on people acting out in physical ways without helping them to deal with what was causing it, it just found a different way to express itself... I do believe that there is hope and what gives me hope is books like a new earth and the power of now by Eckhart Tolle.. his descriptions of what insanity (deeply unconscious) is, has helped me understand people in general better than anything from the psychological world has

Funny, I'd say that I'd be less likely to fall for such, than say an.. NT woman.